Relationship Myths Debunked

7 Relationship Myths Debunked, Because Nothing Should Get In The Way Of You And Your New Boo

Relationships are built on trust and communication. If you don't trust your partner to make their own decisions and be their own person, then why are you with them in the first place?

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Relationships are weird. They can be pretty complicated and confusing. Especially if you've never been in one before. There are a lot of—well, "rules" when it comes to relationships. At least that's what it feels like sometimes.

However, just because you hear about it from your friends, doesn't necessarily make them true. Here are 7 relationship myths debunked! You can thank me later.

1. Opposites attract 

Personally, it's a fifty-fifty. I think it's great to have things in common. I mean, if you guys were complete polar opposites, what would you guys even talk about? What would you guys even agree on?

But being the exact same wouldn't be any fun either. Somewhere in the middle is ideal.

2. You can't hang out with the opposite sex alone 

It's normal to feel jealous. It'd be weird if you weren't a little jealous from time to time.

But, to say your significant other can't have friends of the opposite sex (or the same sex) is absolutely ridiculous. And yes, they are allowed to hang out with them alone.

Relationships are built on trust and communication. If you don't trust your partner to make their own decisions and be their own person, then why are you with them in the first place?

3. Couples therapy's for couples who fight a lot 

I use to think that's what it was for. For couples who need counseling because they argue too much or something.

But, I mean, I went to a therapist before just because. You don't need to be "mentally ill" in order to see one. Same thing goes for couples therapy. Sometimes it's nice to just sit down and get a professional's unbiased thoughts and opinions on your guys' relationship.

4. Sex is an important part of a relationship 

Yes and no. It depends on the relationship. Sex is important, but it's not everything. If the two of you decide to wait, or decide not to engage in sex, that's fine. It's not required for a successful relationship.

That being said, it does have an impact in a relationship—if the two of you decide it to be.

5. Babies lead to marriage 

This one's a more "old-timey" one, but it's still something I hear about in the media.

The idea that you are now stuck together because of a life you two created is barbaric. Sure, the little guy (or girl) is a combination of the two of you's DNAs, but that doesn't necessarily mean the two of you are meant to be—marriage-wise.

6. Masturbating is cheating 

Personally, I don't think it is. It's natural. It's a normal, human act humans do.

There's nothing wrong with it, and there's no shame in doing so. That being said, I know there are people out there who believe it's cheating. This might just be a personal thing, and everyone's entitled to their own opinions, but I don't think masturbating is cheating.

7. If it's meant to be, it will be 

Maybe in a "true love conquers all" kind of way. That's actually what I tell all my girl friends involved with sh*tty guys.

However, if we're seriously talking about this, that's not how life works. That's not how love works.

Love is a choice. You're in control of your own destiny. So, if you decide to cut off a guy who wronged you and expect him to come running back to you: it's not gonna happen. If you don't take a chance and ask your crush out, they'll probably never know you liked them to begin with.

As much as I like to believe "if it's meant to be, it will be," you are essentially in control of your own love life.

There's no right or wrong way to date. It's really up to the individuals in the relationship. Maybe you agree with me, and maybe you don't. That's totally fine.

Relationships are hard work. What works for one couple might not work for another.

These are just my personal thoughts and opinions. Feel free to disagree!

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21 Reasons You Should Date Someone Who Was A Camp Counselor

Spouse and parent material, all wrapped up in an animal shirt, Nike shorts, and Chacos.
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1. They shop at Goodwill mostly... low maintenance you could say?

SEE ALSO: The ABC's Of Summer Camp

2. They are pretty awesome at talking to parents... opening days have given good practice for them. Give them 15 minutes and they will become best friends with your parents.

3. Their best friends actually are long distance...so you can wait a while to meet their besties who will want to know everything about you and make sure your intentions are good.

4. They have learned how to look decently presentable without showering for a week... maybe two...you may or may not like this one.

5. They are always down for adventure... sure let's hike for eight miles uphill in the middle of the week!

6. They know what it is like to be woken up at 2 a.m. because someone wet their bed... mom training.

7. They also know how to give the "modest is hottest" talk to the teenage campers... and will help give you a classy future daughter.

8. Building fires is their hidden talent... if you ever get stuck on a deserted island with them they can help you.

9. Animal shirts are a common clothing item... they know how to have fun.

10. They throw killer dance parties... ones your grandma would approve of.

11. They are used to being publicly embarrassed for others (their campers') enjoyment... and usually can take a joke or prank well.

12. They also know how to prank you back... summer camp prepares you for awesome prank wars.

13. If you want to see her with no makeup on just look at her camp photos... natural beauty?

14. They actually love children... they chose to spend a whole summer loving other people's kids; imagine how awesome they will treat their own.

15. Chances are they are a really fun person and will bring out your inner child... yes, climb that random tree and paint your face because it is Wednesday.

16. Their "real job" will come later in life... they will end up being successful. Most employers love to hire former counselors, so it is not a waste of a summer.

17. They know how to hide their favorites in life really well... so if they choose to date you they are basically saying you are their favorite and that is a big deal to them.

18. They have learned how to eat unhealthy food every day for a whole summer and stay in shape... or try to at least.

19. They also are obviously not a diva when it comes to material needs...they went a whole summer without even air conditioning and never complained.

20. If they love you anything like they love their campers your needs will always be put first...they are some of the most selfless people you will ever meet.

21. They love God, living for Him, and have already made a difference in many children's lives... they are the real MVPS.

If you are still looking for a place to work this summer and love adventure, Jesus, and children, apply for Camp Crestridge for Girls; they still have many positions available. I'll be there so you should too!

If you are a boy apply for Camp Ridgecrest for Boys!

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Be Nice To Everyone, Even The One Who May Be A Total Jerk to You

You don't know what everyone is going through, so just be nice.

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"You're always so bubbly." "Why are you so nice?"

These are phrases I typically hear, and to tell you the truth, it's because why would you want to be mean? The reason I am nice to everyone is that you honestly don't know what people go through. You don't know if they're giving a fake smile or not because they have problems at home or with their friends. Even if you're having a bad day, don't take it out on someone else because you shouldn't use someone as your own personal punching bag.

People go through so many things in their daily lives. Everyone has their own demons and may be fighting their own fights, so why would you want to add fire to that? Wouldn't you want to be the person that makes someone smile after they have been having a bad day? Making someone's day will honestly make your day because you will feel like you helped someone.

Many people who are bitter at the moment tend to rain on other people's parades, or in other words, they want to stop the positive attitude of someone who is having a good day. This instance has happened to me many times, where people tend to want to ruin the positive attitude I have just because they don't agree with what I say or think that they're above me. When you're mean to a person, you give off the feeling that you think they're less and we live in a country where everyone should be treated equally. Being nice is about being a decent human being and treating the people you meet with kindness and respect, regardless of who they are.

In the past, I have had my share of bullying and people who are closed minded and have negative attitudes. In my experience, I don't even want to continue and engage with them because if you surround yourself with negativity, it will eventually start to rub off on you. Self-care is also choosing not to argue with people who are committed to misunderstanding you, which is exactly why sometimes I just stay quiet and let the other person think they have "won" the argument because, at the end of the day, you believe in what you want. People should know the difference between voicing their opinion and trying to change someone's opinion.

Lastly, being mean doesn't solve anything. As hate crimes have risen in the past couple of years, it is an effect of being mean to people. As a society, we honestly do not need any more hate or bullying or negative attitudes. I understand that some people aren't as friendly or outgoing, but it's simple — if you have an encounter with someone, just make sure to be nice and not put anybody down. Words hurt, too.

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