22 Reasons To Date Your Best Friend

22 Reasons To Date Your Best Friend

The concept of dating your best friend is understandably controversial and absolutely comes with a risk, but the good news is that it's worth it.

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Have you developed feelings for your best friend? That may scare you at first; you're probably worried about all of the common fears, such as, "What if they don't feel the same way and our friendship is ruined?" I'm here to let you know that going out with your best friend is so worth it, and I would never want it any other way.

1. They already know you and love you.

You won't have to worry about that awkward phase in the beginning. Sure, it might be a bit strange for your friend to suddenly be your partner in the beginning, but for the most part, you're already comfortable with each other and definitely already love each other.

2. You have history.

Whether they are a childhood friend or someone you've only known for a few months, you two certainly already have a history together. No need to have anxiety about when to tell each other's secrets or wondering whether or not you can trust each other. You've known each other for some time; it will make everything more relaxed.

3. You already know how to work out problems.

Obviously, couples and friends have different problems for the most part, and you might still struggle with the couple-type of problems. But the fact of the matter is that you already know how to compromise and forgive each other if you fight or if something goes wrong.

4. You trust each other.

Friendships take trust. If you two have been friends for some time, then presumably you can already trust each other with a lot of things.

5. You love talking to them.

No first date awkwardness or anxiety here! You already know each other's passions and shared interests, and you talk to each other a lot. You won't have to struggle to find conversation starters or suffer through small talk.

6. They're one of your #1 supporters.

Newsflash: If your significant other doesn't support you, they're not worth it. Luckily, if you date your best friend, it's a given that you'll always have each other's backs.

7. You understand each other so well.

You understand each other's boundaries, insecurities, and ways of thinking. You won't have to try to explain yourself or feel embarrassed trying to explain something to them.

8. You're always there for one another.

You don't have to stress about whether or not your new partner will support you and be there to offer advice when you're feeling down; you already know that they will.

9. You (probably) already know their family and other friends.

No weird "meeting the family" situations or stress over whether or not you'll get along with your sweetheart's friend group. Their friends and family already know you, and probably already like you, too!

10. You've learned how to handle time apart.

Distance sucks, but all friends have to deal with it at some point, and so do all romantic couples as well. You and your friend have had plenty of "practice" time apart, and you know how to cope, so when your friend becomes your significant other, you already know how to handle it.

11. You're comfortable with one another.

You feel safe with this person and you know that they're not going to judge you. You can talk to them about anything, and they can do the same for you.

12. You respect one another.

Almost everyone has had a partner that didn't respect them, but you won't have to worry about that if you date your best friend!

13. Technically, you've already been on dates.

You've already been to the movies, been out to eat, gone to the park, or done at least something with your friends that you'd do with a lover. Sure, you probably haven't done any sappy romantic things with any of your friends, but at least you've done something.

14. You can be yourselves.

At the beginning of relationships especially, a lot of people worry about making impressions, and we wonder if we can really be ourselves. You and your friend already know and love each other for your true authentic selves, so there's no need to worry.

15. You love spending time together.

It's unlikely that you'll get tired of going out or hanging out with your significant other if you're also best friends with them.

16. You're comfortable sharing a space, most likely.

Maybe you've never been roommates with your best friend, but you've probably stayed at each other's houses before and maybe even been on vacation together. Either way, you already have somewhat of an idea what it's like to be around each other.

17. You have all of the benefits of a best friend AND a romantic partner rolled into one.

There are some things we can do with a best friend but not a s/o, and some things we can do with a s/o but not a best friend...unless you have someone who is both, in which case it's the best of both worlds.

18. If your relationship goes sour, you WILL be able to remain close.

Now, obviously, if someone cheats or becomes abusive, that's an entirely different situation. But we're talking about your best friend here, so let's be optimistic and realistic.

A lot of people fear to date their friends in case someone falls out of love or ends up loving someone else more. But the fact is most of the time, these problems are survivable. Will it hurt and be awkward in the beginning? Yes, absolutely. But you'll always have friendly feelings for this person, even if the romantic feelings fade. It may take a while to return to normalcy, but with effort, it can and will happen.

19. If your relationship remains sweet, you'll have the perfect marriage.

On a more positive point, if you two truly do stay together forever, you'll absolutely be relationship goals.

20. You know each others' pasts.

You know where each other's previous relationships went wrong. You know where they went right. You know about the times when they struggled and when they triumphed.

21. You have inside jokes.

There's nothing better than sharing a laugh with the person you're dating, and it's especially great when you can go into the relationship already having that.

22. It is so, so, worth any "risk."

It's totally understandable for you to worry about what may go wrong, but don't focus on that. Focus on all of the positive things that I mentioned. It really is worth taking the chance.

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13 Movies Every Couple Needs To Watch Before They Get Married

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories.

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These 13 movies are the foundation of any long-lasting relationship, and I'm not joking. Each movie will show you something new about your partner, and make you ask each other the hard questions. How many kids do you want and how are you going to raise them? What would happen if you got into a horrible accident? Some are less serious though, like what if you could time travel?

I promise that not every one of these movies is a Nicholas Sparks classic, and I also promise that not every movie has Rachel McAdams in it!

1. "The Time Traveler's Wife"

This movie is both heartbreaking and amazing.

2. "About Time"

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories. It's on Netflix right now, so grab some snacks and turn it on!

3. "Like Crazy"

This infamous Tumblr gif came from "Like Crazy." It's about a couple who goes long distance and build their life together. I used to cry every time I watched it, and I'm no crier! It also has the (now famous) Felicity Jones in it.

4. "The Notebook"

Every girl wants this kind of love.

5. "The Last Song"

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are literally married now so if that isn't good luck, I don't know what is.

6. "Safe Haven"

You guessed it! This is another Nicholas Sparks classic. This movie has a dark twist as well, which men will love.

7. "Inside Out"

You may be thinking that this one is a bit weird. Well, this movie will help both you and your partner understand each other's emotions better.

8. "The Choice"

This movie is great because the female lead is feisty and extremely intelligent, which usually doesn't happen in love stories. How do you keep the love alive with a woman who is hard to get, and even harder to keep entertained?

9. "The Longest Ride"

Originally I could not stand the main female lead (Britt Robertson) but now she is in one of my favorite shows (For The People), so I have no choice. This movie had me on the end of my seat, and as a rom-com it is a must.

10. "The Age Of Adaline"

I began loving the name 'Adaline' thanks to this movie. This unlikely love story and self love journey really gets me.

11. "The Vow"

Imagine falling in love with someone and building a life, but an accident forces you to start all over?

12. "Titanic"

If they don't have any sort of reaction to this movie, they are probably not the one for you.

13. "Yours, Mine, & Ours"

Yours, Mine, & Ours is a true classic. Are you Helen or Frank Beardsley? You should figure that out before you tie the knot!

You're welcome!

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Being A Military Wife Is Not The Same As Serving In Active Duty

It's about balance, and it's hard to find a happy medium between serving and supporting your spouse.

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I enlisted into the United States Air Force as a fresh-faced 18-year-old. I had just graduated high school and never experienced life on my own, away from what I knew and my loved ones and friends. The military was my first legitimate job. Thankfully, I knew independence since I had parents that ensured I knew how to handle myself. That does not mean I joined knowing everything there was to know. Far from it, actually, but that's OK.

My first and only duty station was Malmstrom Air Force Base. Before you think that Malmstrom is some exotic and foreign land, it's definitely not. My first base was in Montana. A very cold and unpredictable climate where you could experience beautiful summer sunshine one day and the next, find yourself running back up to your room to escape from the unexpected blizzard.

I was stationed in Montana as a security forces member (military police) for six very long years. During this time, I met some wonderful people as well as some people I know I would not mind never seeing again. I did a lot of my growing up at this location.

There were hard lessons that needed to be learned and experiences that I had to have in order to know what and what not to do in the future. Security forces is not the easiest or best job in the military. There are more challenges as a security forces member than most careers in the Air Force. There is the very likely chance of deployment into hostile locations where the member will face life and death challenges and have to make quick and ugly decisions and the schedule and duties are not ideal.

However, the good often outweighs the bad. The rewards for surpassing these challenges that seemed insurmountable at the time are some of the best in the world. I can say that the life lessons during my time in the service, no matter how uncomfortable it was at the time, is an experience of a lifetime. These challenges are unknown to the military spouse.

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Not long after separating from the military, I got married. We met while I was still in the military. My husband is still active duty in the Air Force, turning me into a military wife and dependent. It was a different role to take, knowing how many people in the military viewed military spouses. I found myself in a different bracket or tier than a lot of people. I was a military wife that was prior military. I understand the challenges my husband still undergoes in his enlistment because I knew the military life at one point. I did not have to be introduced into the military and the way it works blindly.

Throughout my enlistment, there were stories and jokes regarding military spouses, with emphasis on the military wife. Even now that I am no longer in the service, I still see memes on social media where military wives serve as a running joke. The jokes involving weight, attractiveness, infidelity or wives wearing the rank of their military spouse while attempting to utilize what power that rank may hold. Due to the stories I heard while I was in, I had a pre-conceived idea of what to expect as a military spouse. Some of the stories and jokes came from a center of truth. However, the stigma for a military wife would follow any and all military wives no matter the validity or lack thereof.

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When I became a military wife, I wanted to make sure I did not fall under that stereotype. Becoming the dependent gave me something else to consider. It gave me the unheard side of those military spouses. There are so many challenges that we also face while being married to the military.

For example, we pick up and go at a moment's notice and often leave our careers behind if our spouses get moved. This makes it really hard to make friends and connections with other people. Plus, there's the reality that our spouses could lose their lives serving for our country.

A lot of the time, we become a single parent when our spouses are deployed. If we do go with, finding employment is really competitive and hard to do at all. It's hard on both of us because neither party will ever truly understand why things are done a certain way. Some things just aren't fair and that's a hard reality to deal with.

So, yes, the service of the military member is the military member's service, not ours. That fact does not mean we do not have our own sacrifices we made when we decided to marry into the military family.

The experience of the military member and the military spouse are two different sides, but they're both equally important.

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