We all do it-- admire from afar "her," taking on life in what seems like an effortless manner. Our eyes widen at her presence and the envy quickly accumulates. We want what she has from her head to her toes, thinking our happiness relies on that. But it doesn't. And we shouldn't. Ladies, here are the primary reasons you must stop comparing yourself to the girl who seems to have it all:

1. She doesn't have it all.

Sure, she seems composed on the outside, full of beauty and popularity. All of the guys love her and all of the girls want to be her. But her life isn't as picture perfect as you're making it up to be-- no one's is. She has flaws just like you, awkward tendencies and turnoffs. She just hides her imperfections exceptionally well.

2. It's detrimental to your self-esteem.

In comparing notes, you're picking a winner. And that's not fair, nor is this a contest! Take her down off that pedestal and place yourself there for once.

3. Your focus on her is interfering with your focus on you.

Your concentration on her won't foster any improvements on yourself. You yearn to have the beautiful body that girl has? Work out and get in shape. Focus on you. You wish you had impressive test grades like her? Study hard and prove yourself. Focus on you. You want a life as lavish as hers seems? Set yourself up for many successes in the future. Focus on you. We may not have what she appears to have in the moment, but we are capable of anything over time. Don’t waste your days focusing on her life when you could be working on bettering yours.

4. Jealousy's the ugliest trait.

Those crossed arms, that permanent pout and eye roll when she walks past is NOT sexy. Your envy towards her highlights your lack of self-confidence, another rather unsexy characteristic. Stop obsessing over who she is and start loving yourself. And stop comparing yourself to the girl who seems to have it all because you will never be her. You are your own person, unique and stunning in a variety of ways, and worthy of the same damn recognition you generously give her.