Have you ever had such high expectations for something that when that thing happened, your expectations were so high that it didn’t even reach what you were expecting? Then you become disappointed and let down. You wonder why wasn’t this as cool or exciting as I thought it was going to be?
The problem isn’t the thing that didn’t meet your expectations, the problem is with your expectations. Having expectations for events or things that are occurring in your life enables you from experiencing it the way it is supposed to be experienced. If you’re waiting for something to happen and it doesn’t, your experience with this event won’t be fun. No one can read your mind so of course nothing is going to be suited just for you and made just for you.
Instead of expecting things, just live in the moment.
Furthermore, you especially shouldn’t have expectations for people due to the fact that people tend to f’ck things up. Whether it’s getting your lunch order wrong or forgetting to buy you something or not acting the way you wanted. People make mistakes.
Humans will never be perfect. Just like I said before, no one is reading your mind so if you want something a certain way, you need to speak up.
Being assertive can be so helpful. This means you are clearly communicating what you want and when you want it instead of assuming and expecting things.
I know from experience, being assertive can sometimes make you feel like you’re asking for too much, but ask and you shall receive. No one knows what anyone wants, so telling people what you want makes their job easier too. Everyone wins here!
Clear communication is so important to any relationship. Whether it’s a relationship with a partner or with a friend or even parents, communicating your expectations wants and needs is a helpful way to maintain a clear relationship. I believe most conflicts occur when there isn’t clear communication because people misunderstand what you mean and can take it in offensive ways.
Having less expectations for things helps open your mind to new things. People don’t realize that you become more disappointed when you imagine something than if you didn’t because you imagine it perfectly and nothing in this world is perfect. Not even you.
Having realistic expectations however can help you significantly. It will help you accept others and all their flaws. Rather than you setting high unreachable expectations that no one can meet, setting ones that are realistic and reachable will help you feel like everyone is almost as perfect as you would like them to be.
Just as realistic you are with others, you should be with yourself as well. Especially for me, as a female (not leaving males out), there are a lot of expectations that the world has for us. We feel the pressure of looking a certain way, or acting a certain way. However, once you realize that these expectations aren’t realistic, you’ll understand yourself much better.
Be realistic with yourself and others. Don’t expect too much but don’t expect nothing at all. We are all imperfectly perfect humans living in this imperfectly perfect world.
