After 19 Years, I Have Finally Raised My Dating Standards For 6 Reasons
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After 19 Years, I Have Finally Raised My Dating Standards For 6 Reasons

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After 19 Years, I Have Finally Raised My Dating Standards For 6 Reasons

For so many years, I have lowered my standards and settled for any guys who showed any type of interest toward me. That stops today. Today, I will be treated right. I will be sought after. I will keep my standards high and my head higher. Below are my new and improves standards, that I hope to uphold throughout college.

1. I am a treasure. I shouldn't have to do the seeking.

For way too long, I have always sought after men and chased after them, trying to get them to like me. However, that isn't going to work anymore. As my father says, I am a treasure. Treasures don't do the seeking, they are sought after. If a man truly likes me, he should chase after me. I am way too tired of chasing men and them running away. It's their turn to come to me.

2. If a guy really wants to be with me, he will have to make an effort. 

I am the type of girl to message guys first, drive an hour and a half to see them, and text them good morning. I have decided to stop doing those things so frequently. I want a guy that will send me a cute good morning text and FaceTime me at night. I want a guy that will drive to me to hang out and just be with me. I want a guy who will truly make an effort.

I absolutely love the simple things: giving me compliments, FaceTiming me, telling me good morning, showing me off to his friends, etc. I don't need fancy dinners. I just need someone to make an effort and show me that they care about me.

3. When I am around a guy's friends, he shouldn't treat me any differently than when we are alone. 

I absolutely hate it when guys act differently to me when we are around his friends. I become a fly on the wall. They don't want anything to do with me. Of course, all guys need their guy time, but when I am with the group, I should feel included and wanted. He should be proud to have me.

4. I should be able to trust and confide in him. 

This is such a big deal for me. I need someone who I can have those deep conversations with. Any relationship will fall apart if the two people can't communicate and speak honestly. If you are irritated, tell me and we can work it out. If you are sad, talk to me and I will try my best to comfort you.

5. We should have the same general views. 

I have found that dating someone with differing religious and political views can be a nightmare. From now on, I want someone who will go to church with me and help me grow closer with God. I believe that every strong relationship starts with a strong foundation - Christ... not sex, not lies, nothing else. I won't get into politics too much, but I know that I need someone who believes the same general ideas that I do, or else we will clash and fight.

6. He shouldn't want me for just physical needs. 

Today, a lot of people in it for the hookups. I, however, am not. I want a real relationship. I want a boyfriend, not a toy. I date for marriage. I don't date for short term fun.

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