You're happiness is nothing to be messed with. Too often we jeopardize our happiness. We spend so much time apologizing for wanting to do the things that make us happy or justifying our reasons for doing the things we do. Stop. You don't owe anyone anything. The only person's approval you should be seeking is your own, but too many of us forget that. We try to appease countless people and make ourselves miserable in return. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Do what you want, when you want. Pursue your own happiness unapologetically.
We spend too much time doing things that we don't want to do. Your time is precious and you shouldn't waste a minute of it. If you don't like where you are working, find a new job. If you don't like the people you have in your life, find new people to share your life with. If you don't like where you live, find a new place to live.
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever heard is, "If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree." You are not required to live your life exactly where you are at this moment, whether it be physically, emotionally, career-wise, relationship-wise, etc. If you do not like the person you are dating, you are not required to stay with them. If you wish you had more talents or hobbies, try something new.
We are not required to stay exactly how we are and where we are for our entire lives, yet many of us do. We remain in relationships with people who don't bring us happiness. We keep friends in our lives that only tear us down. We go to work every day to jobs that bring us more stress and anxiety, than they should. We continue to live in cities that disinterest us and we continue to do the same activities that we have done for years. We are not meant to live such monotonous lives.
The problem is that we are also creatures of habit. While these things bring us such unhappiness, we are so used to them that we are afraid to change. To end that relationship. To move to a new city. To quit our job. We are so used to things being how they are that we don't know how walk away from it, but my question to you is: why continue doing something that isn't making you happy?
We all know that life is too short. Even those of us that are lucky enough to get to see our 80s or 90s, life still goes by in the blink of an eye. No one wants to get to the end of their life, whether it be at 92, 45 or 27 and say, I wish I did more things that made me happy.
Every morning you need to choose yourself. Choose to put yourself and your happiness first. Don't apologize for not wanting to do something. Stop making excuses. We have all been there- someone invites you out and you really don't want to go so you make some excuse as to why you can't go. I dare you to be more honest. Tell them straight up, "hey, I really would love to see you, but I'm not really in the mood tonight, but we will plan something soon." I'm sure your friends would appreciate your honesty a lot more and it saves you the stress and aggravation of having to come up with an excuse.
Your time is precious. Your happiness should be a top priority in your life. If it's not, I encourage you to start now. Start small if you have to. Do something every day for a week that makes you happy. The more you start choosing yourself, the easier it becomes. Stop apologizing for choosing yourself. I guarantee you people will start to respect you more for your ability to stand up for yourself and if they don't, they aren't people that you need in your life.
So ask yourself, what makes you happy? Now go and do it.
