The main goal for animals is to procreate. To "spread the seed." Sex is a biological program embedded into us. Sex gives a sense of belonging and love, but the porn industry fabricates what sex is supposed to be like. Our culture has begun to demonstrate sex in such a way where the meaning becomes blurred. Porn has liquefied sex into a type of dirty, strictly physical act. Porn makes people think that promiscuity and sex go hand in hand when in reality sex is meant to show love. People think porn shows us too much when in reality it shows us too little.
It used to be a hurdle to get porn before the internet era, but now all you have to google is porn and it pops up for free, for no charge your brain is melting, congrats. I get the curiosity behind it. Porn is alluring and fascinating. I understand a 14-year-old boys wanting to see a pair of boobs, but it's become so readily available to the general public all you need is a WiFi password. These young people haven’t reached sexual maturity and their brain is like a sponge absorbing what they think sex should be like. The youth is being trained to think that porn is how you have sex.
Most people have a general understanding that porn is morally wrong and the actors in the porn industry generally do it for the wrong reasons yet it is strangely satisfying all at the same time. In your core you know the time used watching porn wasn’t exactly productive. Maybe you could of used that time playing with your kids, or talking to your wife, or studying, or working.
Porn causes people to become obsessed with women before they can interact with them. And by that I mean that people are more likely to notice her physical attributes before you even have the chance to see what her words can offer you. Women become body parts. Her boobs are too small. Her nose is too big. Her ass is too small. Her smile is too gummy. People have been trained to look at women as objects. Media produces a cultural smog with bill board ads, movies like "50 Shades of Grey," even those stupid Hardee’s commercials of the beautiful blonde girl downing a burger. No girl looks like that when she eats a burger, okay? When I gorge myself with a cheese burger ain't nothin' about that sexy.
Porn gives a sense of belonging to lonely people and validates their sexuality. People naturally crave intimacy and porn gives them the easy way out. When people watch porn they don’t have to communicate with anyone in order to enjoy it. It requires no thought, no conversation, no responsibility, and no money yet you still get short-term enjoyment. It’s not like porn is a one-time thing either. Once somebody gets the fixation of watching porn, the brain releases dopamine causing you to have a further appetite to watch more.
Porn allows people to live in silicon valley. Where every male is at least seven inches long and every female doesn’t have an ounce of cellulite. People that are exposed to porn are obviously going to be more preempt to be critical of one’s appearance. Which often times will make their partner self-conscious. I know when I see a girl with a bigger butt than I do and my boyfriend is with me, it makes me feel less of a woman. It makes me feel like I need to change, that I'm not good enough. And it's all because of over-sexualization. That's not the only example either. When I see a guy with a toned back and ripped arms my boyfriend will point him out to me and compare himself in such a way that hurts me more than it hurts him. I would never want the person I love to feel like he needed to change all because society is wanting us to chase after perfection. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder and I don't think that muscle heads are perfect, I think that my boyfriend without the six pack is way sexier than any porn star.
Is there a way to show beautiful, consensual sex to society in a non-harmful way? Porn is presenting a powerful message to all age groups that doesn’t go unnoticed. If you do watch porn, just know the reality behind it. These people are sex workers, porn is their job, they get paid to have sex. Sex is supposed to be a sacred, bonding, and loving action between two people.
