The Person You Owe The Biggest Apology To Is Yourself

The Person You Owe The Biggest Apology To Is Yourself

In the end, the person you live with is yourself. Don't you think life would be easier if you forgave that person?

I have always known that the person whom I owe the biggest apology to is myself. I suppose others may have been crueler but really, who knows my mind better than myself? Who knows better where to launch an attack than I?

Perhaps that's where we all must begin — begin by apologizing to ourselves for the wrong we've done unto our own bodies and our own hearts and minds as if they are canvases that can easily be painted and remade. If you want to be remade, forgive yourself before any others because that is where the damage begins. You will always be the worst to yourself. If humans have such a long history of hurting others, imagine what the books don't say. Imagine the hurt done unto ourselves over time — it is amazing we have survived.

We must decide upon a cease-fire. We must stop attacking ourselves because we are the easiest thing to punch. If you sleep every night next to the person you love and it's restless sleep, don't you think it's time to change something? Who do you sleep with more than your lover? Yourself. When the person next to you isn't there, who are you left with? Yourself.

Stop attacking. You are using old bullets to reopen old wounds. Is your arsenal really that well equipped? Or is it simply that you've done unto yourself far worse than what others could possibly do, and this is a game of one-up? War is not all bullets and gunfire and punches. War begins and continues with words and negotiations and war ends with words and negotiations. Stop fighting a war against yourself. Stop shooting bullets at the places you know will bleed the most.

To whom do you owe an apology? Yourself.

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The 'Real You' Is The You That's Fully-Rested And Cared For

"The real you comes out when you're tired and hungry and sick." Lies.


I've often heard people say that the real you comes out at 3 a.m. or some other odd time of the night when you're cranky, hungry, or just in a bad mood. Honestly, that doesn't make any sense.

The real "you" is when you're well-fed, well-rested, cared for, and everything in between. You might say that there are rare times when that ever happens, but honestly, it's the effort that counts.

When you don't even try to take care of yourself, there's a subconscious part of you that believe it's unnecessary or not even worth trying for.

It's truly a precedent you set for yourself and the others around of you of how you would like to be treated.

This even applies to the thoughts we think. When we're running on less sleep or starving through a class, we're more prone to have self-destructive, mean thoughts about ourselves. And if you haven't been getting enough sleep for consecutive nights, really try and make it a priority to.

Sometimes, we don't realize how bad it was until gets better.

Funnily enough, this applies to other people as well. When we get disappointed because people don't treat us the way we think they should, we feel a little hurt. Honestly, though, it's important to think about circumstances that have caused them to act that way. It could have been a stressful week at work, a rough patch in a relationship, or even a fallout in a friendship. Given that, it's only natural to act differently. Not talking as much, reaching out to people less, preferring alone-time, and other things are completely normal.

So, don't take it personally. It's nothing against you.

And, this all really does come full circle. Think about it: you can only understand situations and people and the realness behind them when you are as well taken care of as you can be. So don't be afraid to put yourself first, even if it means skipping out on something else (which it often will).

You're worth it.

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