Dear Introvert,
Hi there, my name's Bryana and I'm a lot like you. I know we just met (kind of) but maybe after reading this article, you'll find a perspective from the words contained in this letter...
I've always been an introvert. Maybe it doesn't look like it from my Instagram feed or my sarcastic Snapchat pics, but I'm your typical shy girl. By definition, an introvert is, "a shy person." GO FIGURE!
I may not be the recluse that people usually associate with the term, and maybe you're not either, but that doesn't the term doesn't have its restrictions. Today, I think introverts are looked down upon because most, like me, aren't willing to take chances. There are very few times in my life, other than getting a tattoo, that I can truly say I went out of my comfort zone, whatever that may be-- I'm still trying to figure it out.
Throughout the last 18 years of my life, I've always felt out of place, especially around others my age. I don't like the same TV shows, music, or brands that my peers do-- at least most of the time. I'm into bands others my age have never heard of and most of my clothing choices are slightly more rocker than other girls I see. Some look at me and think I'm just an old soul, while others probably think I'm odd for a teenager in today's society-- "13 Going on 30" ring a bell?
I like certainty. I like feeling comfortable. Not complacent necessarily, but like I belong where I am in that instant. I guess that's why I took to reading and fandoms so quickly. I get to enjoy kick-butt characters and adventures all in the comfort of my reading spot.
Anyways, what I'm saying is, just because we're introverts doesn't mean we have to let a term define us, or anything for that matter. I'm a firm believer in the fact that we decide what we make of ourselves. We may not get to influence the opinion of others, but at least when we step up and act, they're deciding on our true character. We do our part and the rest is up to them.
I used to let the opinions of others cloud my decisions. I'm hardwired that way, for some reason. I still struggle with receiving validation from others, if I'm honest. When I walk down the hallway in my scuffed up converse and a dark t-shirt, some part of me just knows people are staring or judging me. I wonder constantly if they see me as a loner or the smart girl that's too stuck up to talk to her classmates.
Truth is, I'm not really a loner and I may be book-smart, but I don't think I'm stuck up. I'm just too shy to talk to new people-- people I don't know. I love checking out new stores or music with friends and I like talking about something that I'm interested in-- even if it's not what others my age find appealing. I'm an introvert, yes, but I define myself. And you can too!
I certainly don't have all the answers, especially if you're looking for how to break out of your shell! I guess what I'm saying is being an introvert's pretty cool, at least in my book. And there are different levels. You don't have to have your nose in a book 24/7 or shut the world out.
Define life for yourself, be you, and don't let anyone tell you different.
Love,
Bry
