I'm Not Lazy, I'm Just Exhausted

I'm Not Lazy, I'm Just Exhausted

What you don't know about the person who doesn't have it together

"You're always sleeping."

"Why don't you just get it done?"

"Of course you're late again."

"You're so lazy. Just do it."

These are common phrases spoken by people who all too often mistake depression and anxiety for laziness. What those people do not realize is the person they are talking to may be really struggling and be proud of themselves for simply getting out of bed that day.

And, the person criticizing them minimizes that accomplishment.

It may be hard for others to understand, but battling depression and anxiety every day in and of itself is draining -- mentally and physically. The constant worry and/or lingering lack of motivation keeps the mind running all day. For those with anxiety, often the lack of energy to do what needs to be done creates more anxiety.

For people who are very involved in school, their job, etc. (like myself), daily life activities are enough to drain someone's energy on their own. Pair that with high anxiety and already lessened energy due to depression, and the result is often a person who has the best of intentions but simply can not keep up with everything. This person is most likely doing the best they can but feels as if they are drowning. They are likely beating themselves up about not being able to keep up with their responsibilities like other people can. Criticizing them or calling them out only makes them feel worse.

Being a full time student, a sorority sister, a member of a leadership organization, a girlfriend, friend, sister, daughter, and person with a disability, I would love to have the energy to keep up with all of my school work, go to the gym, be social, and participate in extra activities. However, the reality is some days I just have to do the best I can. This is true for so many people with high standards of achievement who are also limited by anxiety and depression. Some days, they may be late to class because they didn't have the energy to get up on time that morning. Sometimes, it means not being able to focus on assignments because their anxiety levels are through the roof. Some days, what they really need is support and understanding, not "tough love."

We are not lazy or inconsiderate, we just struggle to keep going and some days are harder than others. If we need a day to just sleep or have a break from everything to recharge, that is perfectly okay.

The next time you see a person running into class late, fumbling with their books, and judge them as disrespectful or careless, or get impatient because the person you are meeting with is late, or judge someone for not doing a homework assignment or studying, stop and think that just getting out of bed and facing the day could've been the biggest accomplishment in the world to them and for that, they deserve an applause.

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Crow

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Some Days

A poem that reminds you that you're not alone.


Some days,

You dread the sound of your alarm. You snooze and snooze and snooze and snooze.

When you finally pull yourself out of bed, pressed time forces you to throw on stained sweats

you find yourself chugging a cup of coffee.

You sit on the couch and contemplate calling out of work

You caught the stomach bug,

Or perhaps the flu,

Maybe you broke your collar bone

Or need a new phone

The endless list of excuses repeats through your head as you sit on the couch, wishing you were still in bed.

It takes every ounce

Every breath

Every fiber of your being to pull yourself off the couch

And into the car

And into the building where you work

Some days,

This is just how it goes

You are not alone.

Some days,

You awake to the beautiful sound of birds

Chirping outside your window

The sun sneaks its way into your room

A smile creeps across your face as you realize you are awake to see a new day

You make a good breakfast

You read a few pages of your favorite book

You get your mind ready for the things it will accomplish today

Before you know it you've worked an entire day

Your job is done

As you pull into your driveway,

you take a few breaths

Feeling grateful for another meaningful day.

Some days,

This is how it goes

You are not alone.

Every day is a gamble,

Every day is a gift

The key to getting more good days

Is believing that everyday is one.

You are not alone, this is just how it goes.

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