Set Yourself Free And Never Hold Back Or Be Ashamed Of What You Are Passionate About

Set Yourself Free And Never Hold Back Or Be Ashamed Of What You Are Passionate About

Let the whole world know what you are made of.

We all have that one thing we are really good at. It seems that either everyone knows about it, or it is left a secret only you know. But with that burning passion being trapped inside of you, it’s either going to go two ways.

1. You set it free

2. Lose it in yourself

Growing up we are constantly asked what we want to do when we actually do grow up. It seems like your opinion of it changes all the time. (I went from astronaut, to dermatologist, to Olympic skier, to writer. Talk about mind changes!) Even now in college there are still days where I feel like being a photographer over a writer, or vice versa. However, at the end of the day, there is always that one topic, activity, subject that stirs in the back of your mind.

When I was younger I absolutely hated writing with the burning passion. (Seriously, writing a book report was like the equivalent of getting your teeth pulled). I felt like every class was almost always assigning a new writing assignment, and I dreaded going back home and working on it with my mom. (Oh, she dreaded it too). The thought of even getting out a pen and paper made me want to vomit. However, before I went to bed each night I would lie in there awake for hours just thinking about stories that would pop up in my head.

Frankly though, without ever really noticing until when I was older, I was already basically a storyteller. I just never really actually told the stories that were going on in my head on paper. I started to write my stories in notebooks. Over time, since about when I was in middle school to now, I have filled up about eight notebooks with just stories (with dealing with school, a job, and having an actual life outside my head) I’d say that is pretty good. Ever since then I’ve always wanted to be a writer.

Around my junior year of high school, I guess you can say I was getting more vocal about who I am. I started to speak up more and gain confidence in myself. Though there was this one thing I really had a hard time telling people about, and that was me wanting to be a writer.

I was really scared of what people would think. I was afraid that I would get frowned upon because typically writers don’t have the highest paying jobs or are stereotyped as a hipster/nerd that sits in a coffee shop all day and writes (which I have done a few times, but I am really not the hipster type). All this passion and ideas I was bottling up inside of me. I wanted the whole world to know what I wanted to be, but I was scared of what they will think. Then one day on Facebook, I guess you can say I ‘came out’ by saying I was going to be a writer.

After that, my love for writing has only grown stronger since I have essentially ‘come out’ about what I am passionate about. Bottom line, my main message to you is to not hold back on what you are passionate about. We are so lucky to be alive in a day and age where you can literally do anything and make money. So, it doesn’t matter what you are passionate about, let the whole world know what you are made of. You will be shocked at how many doors will open after you do so.

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6 Tips On How To Be A Successful Restaurant Hostess

Don't let your fears get the best of you!

Congratulations! You've just been offered your very first job as a restaurant hostess! Now what? I'll admit, I went home crying after my first day of training due to feeling very overwhelmed with a bunch of new information that I was expected to know immediately. However, while there IS a lot you'll have to learn in order to be a successful restaurant hostess, that doesn't mean you don't have what it takes to master the role.

To make you even more confident in your ability to succeed, check out the following list of 6 tips on how to be a successful restaurant hostess!

1. Know your table numbers!

As a hostess, you'll need to know the order of the tables in your restaurant so that you can seat your guests as quickly as possible. Note that the specific order of the tables may vary depending on how many people are in your restaurant.

Tips for success:

Remember, learning your table numbers takes practice, and you won't be expected to know all of them the first few times around. To help with the memorization process, make friends with as many of the other hosts/hostesses as you can. After you feel like you've gotten to know them a bit more, ask one of them to walk you around the restaurant to help you learn your table numbers. Finally, familiarize yourself with the order of the tables (i.e. ascending or descending), and you'll be all set!

2. Master the art of rotation.

While knowing your table numbers is one skill you'll need to have mastered, the art of rotation is another. This can be a tricky process only if you aren't given enough opportunities to practice it. Basically, when you're in charge of rotation, you're in charge of making sure that every server gets an equal number of tables assigned to them.

Tips for success:

If it's extremely busy, you'll have no choice but to seat whatever tables are currently open. On a more steady day, however, you'll need to base your decision on which servers to seat depending on what time those servers came in and how many tables they currently have open. To master the art of rotation, simply ask one of the other hosts/hostesses to walk you through their process of doing it, and then try practicing the same process on your own. You can even ask them to review your rotation and inform you of any mistakes you made.

Mastering the art of rotation will likely be the most difficult out of all of the tasks on this list, but it will become easier the more you practice it. Trust me.

3. Answer the phone like it's the best job in the world!

One of my favorite responsibilities as a restaurant hostess is getting to interact with people (which includes answering the phone.) No matter how you're feeling, you need to answer that phone like it's the best job in the world. Why? Because passion brings in business and brightens everyone's day. Not many people can pull it off, but if you love what you do, it will just come naturally.

Tips for success:

Take the initiative to answer the phone as many times as you can for practice. Don't feel bad if you have to ask the caller to repeat what they said if you didn't hear them clearly the first time. Sometimes you may even have to put them on hold to obtain answers to questions that you aren't entirely sure of – and that's fine too! Just make sure to let the caller know that you'll be right back with them and then follow through with your promise.

4. Become a "people person."

One of the most life-changing experiences you'll have as a hostess is learning how to interact with people from a variety of different backgrounds.

Tips for success:

Unfortunately, people can be quite vicious when it comes to food. Some of them will likely even try to make you feel or look bad if they don't get what they want. Don't give into that. Instead, stand your ground and respond diplomatically, or get a manager if you have to. Overall, be positive and try not to let your negative experiences affect the outcomes of your efforts in the future.

Remember, all it takes is listening, observing, and being considerate of how others around you are feeling. You'll get the hang of it!

5. Be dependable.

In other words, don't get comfortable with being responsible for only one or two tasks as a hostess. There will likely be a system that you and the other hosts/hostesses will follow. For instance, one of you might be responsible for greeting the guests, and one of you might be responsible for seating them.

Tips for success:

It's okay to have a system, but you'll eventually need to become as skilled with as many hosting tasks as possible. Both your managers and co-workers will need to know that they can depend on you to accomplish a variety of tasks without their help, and that means you'll need to do whatever it takes to get comfortable with doing those tasks on your own. Ask questions when you need clarification on how to do something. Watch and learn from the other hosts/hostesses around you. Learn to be dependable.

6. Believe in yourself.

Even if you're still not entirely confident in your ability to succeed as a hostess, remember this:

Your manager saw potential in you the moment the hired you, and you were meant to have this job. Otherwise, you wouldn't have gotten it.

Now, all you have to do is believe that you have what it takes to be successful with it. You're going to make mistakes here and there for sure. Fortunately, those same mistakes are what will make you even more confident in your potential to be an outstanding hostess.

While being a hostess is something that will challenge you, it is also something that will help you to grow in many ways that you wouldn't have expected initially. Overall, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Learn from your mistakes and be confident in yourself with everything that you do. You've got this!

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Selling Yourself

Building relationships with the people around yourself is the key to sales.


Hi, my name is Isaiah Gardner. Every day, I sell myself to other people.

I approach strangers on the streets and in establishments - bars, clubs, restaurants, malls, shopping centers, insurance agencies, anywhere you can think of - in the hopes of building a new relationship with them.

At this point, you're likely thinking that I'm in a line of work that is entirely separate from the one I'm thinking about, but in all honesty, both use the key component of sales. As a salesman, the top priority is to build rapport and a relationship between yourself and the person with whom you are interacting.

Being in sales is probably one of the most difficult, yet also the most enjoyable, occupations I've held. People inherently hate salesmen - when I stroll into an establishment with my suit and a sly grin, leather-bound notepad in hand, I immediately receive cold looks and narrowed eyes. Dressed head to toe in black, it's no wonder that my presence is ominous, but I don that outfit in the name of professionalism and utmost seriousness. Simply put, I mean business when I enter a room.

I'm one of two people to the receiver of the aforementioned sly grin: An agent of some party that they really don't want to have to interact with, either because I'm there on official business that they'd like to extract themselves from, meaning that they need to turn tail and get out of there as soon as possible. Or, a salesman, here to pitch them a product or service that they don't necessarily need, but which I'm going to pitch to them anyways in the hope that I can advertise myself and the commodity that I bear as one of necessity and utmost quality.

While my demeanor and outfit may be off-putting, my alarming presence is the first thing that I aim to dispel. Not only am I there to sell my product; I'm there to sell myself as a personable, charming, amicable partner with whom a business owner should wish to do business. The foundation of all relationship-building, regardless of the situation, is based upon building rapport and earning the trust of the person or people before you.

Think back to your days in preschool. You were guided there by your parents to an establishment filled with complete strangers, all of which struggled with advanced linguistic mechanics, had just learned the fundamentals of coloring within the lines, and had an attention span of maybe five minutes, provided they weren't staring intently into the relatively fuzzy image produced by a VHS tape displayed on a boxed screen before them.

And yet, somehow, you made friends with these strangers. How'd you do it? I'll bet it was through finding common interests, perhaps through miniature race cars, small constructive blocks, dolls of the plastic or cloth variety, or similar hobbies. Even today as an adult, essentially nothing has changed. In order to sell yourself to others, whether it's to make a sale, make new friends, connect with your new love interest, or to reach any sort of audience, you have to appeal to them in some way - identify what they like, see if you can match that up with something you like, and boom, there's your connection.

People can be very complex, but they can also be very simple. Everybody likes something, and if you come bearing something that they like - in my case, that's money, savings, and the newest promotions - it's rather easy to reach through to them. Connecting with others is a simple process in the sense that you only have to find common ground; the complexity arises as you work around their suspicions and resistance to something new. I'm not preaching anything groundbreaking, but if you stay tuned, I'll give you the tips and tricks needed to connect with literally anybody - yes, anybody, from your friends to business executives - and sell your personality and trust to them.

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