There are very few things in life that people should stand completely firm on. Most times, you should at least be open to hearing other sides of an argument and even potentially have your mind changes as you learn more about the topic and see other areas that you may not have seen before. And then there are things that once you make up your mind, it's okay to never change, and that is where being a second choice should always fall.

You should never accept being a second choice when it comes to a relationship. Being in a relationship, and a good relationship that is meant to last, means that you each make each other a priority and put each other first. This means that you fight for each other and take each other into consideration most times. Are there times you or your partner are going to be selfish? Absolutely. It happens. But there's a different between being selfish once in a while and then being a second choice in a relationship, and you should never be the second choice in your relationship. You should be put on a pedestal, be thought of, be put first, and always have it known to you that you're important.

Feeling values and feeling important in a relationship has a lot to do with knowing that you're not a second choice. There is no better feeling than the person you're with and the person you love putting you first. When you know that that person is always going to make you a priority and put you above other areas of their life, you feel valued. That feeling helps strengthen any relationship because you know that the other person will not go out and do things and not think about you.

It helps strengthen your bond and make your relationship last longer because there's no question as to where you stand. That insecurity and questioning can absolutely destroy a relationship in the long run because you don't necessarily feel like you're all that important in your relationship. You feel like you put in all the work and always put the other person first but that isn't ever reciprocated and that's where relationships start to falter. When all is said and done, when you know you're not a second choice, your relationship will be stronger and you'll be able to feel secure day to day in that relationship.

You should never be made to feel like you're a second choice. Life is too short to have people in it that make you feel insecure about where you stand with them and how important you are to them. You should never settle for anything other than being a first choice, all day, every day. You deserve to be a first choice and that's not something you should ever change your mind about. You're worth it, and don't ever forget that.