Between generations, many things change. Styles changes, music changes, vocabulary changes and people change.

What we seem to ignore is that relationships change. Marriage and relationship standards and trends change.

My relationship isn't anything like my friends' relationships. So I know for a fact that my relationship is nothing similar to my parents, their friends, or my grandparents and their friends. Yet, everyone wants to compare my relationship to theirs.

We have given up the expectation that women are to stay home and clean all day. The idea of the 1950s housewife has faded. While it is still accepted, it is not expected of women. Many celebrity couples and real couples are having kids before they get married. Couples move in together while they are dating before they get engaged and married.

These things most likely did not happen in our parents' and grandparents' generations, so why do they keep pressuring us to do what they did?

My parents are divorced and for my grandparents and step-grandparents, they have different situations. So which one is right? Everyone treats me like I am supposed to do something specific like them, but I am just left very confused.

In my relationship, everyone thinks I am getting married soon and that I won't finish my degree. Even worse, they think that's what my boyfriend wants. We are dating and it is a very long distance, but we are making it work until I get my degree and then we will get married. And before you say anything, yeah, it could fail miserably; however, instead of expecting my relationship to fail why can't we say, "what if it works out?"

Just because my relationship doesn't fit your standards or expectations, it is doomed to fail? Why do I have to conform to your standards of what a relationship should look like? Where does my own happiness lie in all of this?

I am always hearing people talk about couples they barely know or even talking bad about couples they know extremely well. "She is too young to get married," "He doesn't make enough money to support her," "They are too young, it will never last," "I can't believe she would marry him," "They are only together because she's pregnant."

I could go on and on and on.

Why do we care? What does our opinion do for the situation? Why can't we just let people live their lives and support them in whatever decisions they may make?

My relationship is not like your 15-year marriage, Susan. I am my own person, living my own life.

Every person is different, every relationship is different and it's none of your business what happens or doesn't happen. I am begging everyone, please stop judging other relationships and marriages. Just like with cultures and fashion, just because it isn't what you're used to doesn't mean it's wrong.

The greatest advice I learned was when a family friend told me about her daughters. One daughter dated someone for 59 days before getting married and now they are possibly getting divorced two years later. The other daughter dated someone for 6 months before getting married and years later they are just as happy. There is no timeline.

This was a big deal for me to hear someone else say. You never know. No matter how much time you spend with someone, you never know for sure what will happen, but God does and he is the only one.

The idea that we need to date for four-plus years before getting married is a myth that needs to end.

If you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, go for it. Don't let society hold you back. I am sure we all know people who dated for years before getting married and were probably married for several years before getting divorced. Time is not the dictator of how much people love each other or how successful their marriage will be.

No argument anyone has made about my relationship is valid. It might not fit your expectations, but it exceeds mine.

Yes, it might fail but if I spend the duration of my relationship focusing on the possibility of failure, then yeah, I'm screwed. At the end of the day, who someone dates, when a couple decides to have kids and how long people date before marriage is none of your damn business. I hate to break it to you, but from this day forward, your opinion on other relationships will have no value.

For the love of God, can we please have more girls supporting girls?