Every day as I scroll social media, I see countless posts saying something like, "I wish I looked like her," or I see both girls and boys making fun of people about the way someone looks, or dresses. Social media has transformed the definition of beautiful to someone who is paper thin with perfect curves and perfect details. Let me tell you that no one is perfect. Yeah, I know you heard that before, but it is the truth. We might look different, but we are all the same and none of us is superior to another.
All of those people you see in their photos that are thin, tan, curvy, etc. that you are envious of are probably either Photoshopped or are people with money to waste that had a surgery to get themselves to look the way they do because society taught them that plastic surgeries can make you beautiful. Boys have high expectations for the way girls are "supposed" to look. The same goes for girls sometimes. Girls expect every guy to be 6'1'' with a six pack, but that is unrealistic. Not everyone has the same traits.
Every girl out there looks in the mirror and inspects every detail of how they look. I do it. We pick apart ourselves and feel insecure because we don't think we will meet these high expectations. I realized we do not have to meet any expectations. The best way to be beautiful is to be yourself. Sounds cheesy, right? It is the truth, though. You will be so much happier if you don't worry about what someone says or thinks about you.
We have to stop comparing ourselves to one another. We have to stop shaming people for what they choose to wear. I notice girls picking on one another because they "think" someone is wearing "too much" makeup. If someone wants to wear a pound of makeup because it makes them feel confident, so what? Let them wear it. Is it affecting you? I see people bullying one another over clothes because they are not name brand. Well, guess what? Not everyone has money to waste. There is no reason to bully one another about such trivial things, especially because what if that was you? We are all human at the end of the day. We have our flaws and our scars. It makes us, us.
When you see someone who you think is beautiful, tell them; it will make their day. I promise. Instead of putting each other down, let's help boost each other's confidence. When we bully other girls it makes guys think it is OK to do the same to us. Then we girls get mad at the guys.
Trust me, I know it is hard when you stand in front of a mirror and your insecurities scream at you. Then you see or hear what people are saying about you and that just feeds your insecurities. Don't let them win. Look in that mirror and see yourself for what you are and see the real definition of beautiful looking back at you.
I know society sucks sometimes. Why can't we let people post whatever photos they want? Or let people wear whatever clothes and whatever makeup they want? If it makes them feel good that is all that matters. Be yourself and don't let people who don't mean anything to you bring you down. Who runs the world? Girls!
