Today I was scrolling through one of my social media platforms when I came across a video that caught my attention. It was entitled, "I'm always the Black ugly girl.... I'm not."
So I watched the video, and I must admit it had me crying. I cried when I witnessed how all of the girls reacted, how they were all astonished that the girl infront of them could ever feel like that. Then I saw the beauty that shines bright within them.
For those of you who have yet to see this video, and have no clue as to why I would be crying, well here's the reason.
Self-esteem.
We all can look into a mirror however, but let me ask you, how many of you can honestly smile and keep it? How many of you can see beauty, a bright smile and smiling eyes? How many of you can see beyond what you consider to be imperfections? How many of you can look at yourselves, and not for a second compare themselves to another's complexion, their smile, their body, their features?
Hmm, how many of you can can honestly do so? How many of you can say that you have not done so?
More importanty how many of you can admit that this is what you do? That your thoughts are no longer yours because you are fixated on everything that you are not. How many of you can say that you actually feel this way? Will you ever admit it?
Society has alway painted a picture, of what is, and what should be. They have established what the standard of beauty is, they have pictured what true happiness is, what love is. They have put everything in their own perspective. By setting these standards, society has created glasses in which we look through, in which we see through the eyes of someone else. We think and feel wrong, because of what they say and the effect that it may have on us.
These images have gotten stronger to the point where these standards have become our aspirations and our dreams. We wish to have what they described, we wish to be what they are, more importatly we wish to look like them. Not many do, however, and because of this, we are affected no matter how we think; these actions and pictures that society provides somehow get to us. No matter what we do, they always find a way to mess with us.
Then to top it all off, the people around us feel that they have the right to make comments about us. In a way, they support the un-realisticly high standards of society. Constantly comparing us, telling us whose beautiful and who's not, it's not right.
We forget that knowing, seeing, and believing are three completely different things.
So ignore the status quo and remember that you ARE beautful, you ARE unique, you ARE important. And as a reminder, everything about you is beautiful.
