If Someone Wants You, They'll Make The Time

If Someone Wants You, You Won't Have To Ask For Effort

The moment that you realize that you shouldn't have to ask for someone's time and effort is the moment you'll truly be happy.

Emily Ann Gigliotti
Emily Ann Gigliotti Dec 3, 2018
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"If someone wants you, they will make it happen. I know you know this because you'd do anything for the people you love, have feelings for, and those you care about.They don't have to ask you for effort constantly, you just care because it's second nature. 'I've seen bad communicators, communicate well. I've seen bad texters respond quickly & write paragraphs. I've seen people who aren't ready to be in a relationship, get ready in two conversations. If someone wants you, you won't have to ask for effort.'" - Mik Zazon, @mikzazon via Instagram

Being there for our loved ones is easy. We care about them so deeply, that showing affection, time, and effort comes naturally. You don't have to think about when you'll fit them into your schedule or if you're giving them enough love. You just do it. Naturally, because you want to show them the affection you feel for them. And, I'm sure your loved ones don't have to ask for it, either. Both of your emotions are equal, giving one another time and effort like second nature.

I'm sure you can think of one relationship you have (a friend, family member, or significant other) that may not have been giving you that effort that you've been giving them. You make the time for them. You check in on them. You let them know how much you care, in the biggest and smallest ways. But, they aren't reciprocating that energy. Yes, they may feel the same way as you, but they don't show it. You have to ask for their time and effort. You have to beg them for their love.

Don't you see what's wrong here? You shouldn't have to ask for someone's affection. You shouldn't have to ask for someone's time. You shouldn't have to ask for anything from your loved ones.

If someone cares about you, they'll show it.

If someone wants you, you won't have to ask for effort.

If someone wants you, they'll make it happen.

Your love, time, and energy is valuable. You care so deeply for these people, you naturally show the effort and affection. Don't you think you deserve that in return? If someone isn't showing you that, then it's their loss. Don't ever feel like you're in the wrong for feeling the way you do, either. It's not you.

The moment that you realize that you shouldn't have to ask for someone's time and effort is the moment you'll truly be happy. Let go of those that aren't giving you the time, effort, or energy you deserve. Because if someone truly wants you, they'll make the time. You won't have to ask for effort.

Emily Ann Gigliotti
Emily Ann Gigliotti Dec 3, 2018
At Temple University

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5 Musts For When You Stay At Your S.O.'s Dorm

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Spending the night with your significant other is one of the best parts about finally getting to college. You finally are given the freedom to sleep in the same bed all night and wake up in the morning to little kisses. Staying over at your significant other's place does come with many challenges of its own though. The slept in makeup, the lack of clothes for the next day, roommates, and overstayed welcomes all are realities of sleeping over at your significant others dorm.

Spending the night in college can be a difficult road to navigate and it's even more difficult when there are multiple roommates involved. No matter how many times you have likely spent the night with your significant other, you're sure to face some challenges of proper sleepover etiquette. These are a few of the rules of college sleepovers that should probably be followed in order to keep your significant other happy, roommates happy, and to get the most out of your sleepovers.

1. Their space is their space, as well as their roommates' 

Just like you wouldn't go to someone's house and take all of their stuff, you probably shouldn't do this in your significant other's dorm. Taking all of their food, or their roommates' food is not cool. Respect their space just like you would want them to respect yours.

2. Pack smart 

Spending the night with your significant other means loading up your contacts, solution, medication, clothes, pajamas, and the list goes on. Only pack the things that you'll actually need or else you'll be carrying around half of your room all day. And don't forget you can always borrow a comfy t-shirt from your significant other.

3. You still can say "no" if you don't want to do something 

Just because it is their room, you don't have to do anything that you don't want to. Know your own boundaries and be respectful of yourself, your significant other should always understand that.

4. Respect their roommates 

No, you cannot stay over at your significant other's dorm if their roommate says no. It is their room too and it's important to respect how they feel. Your best bet is to be kind and friendly to their roommate, and they'll probably let you stay over more often.

5. Know that you probably won't look like Beyoncé when you wake up 

No one wakes up with perfect hair and the full face of makeup. You should know that and know that your significant other will still love you when you wake up with your hair a mess and bad breath.

Cheyenne Bell
Cheyenne Bell Feb 14, 2019
At Washington State University

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