It seems like when as friendships come to an end, there's always someone at fault and there's always a victim. However, that's not always true, sometimes people naturally grow apart. Their interests and personalities change and evolve over time, and naturally, drift apart without there being some big falling out.
They're not always the one at fault.
I know when we stop talking to someone, it's easier to make it seem like they're the problem and it's their fault your friendship ended. However, that's not always true. Sometimes no one is at fault, and sometimes it's you. Just because someone doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, doesn't mean they're the in the wrong.
I'm sure most of us aren't friends with the people we've known since kindergarten, and if you are that's great! But the reality is, most of us are not. To be honest, I only actively talk to one person from high school, and even we've had our ups and downs. Everyone changes and evolves over time, and sometimes we grow apart from people who we thought we'd be friends with forever. As sad as it sounds, that's a natural part of life.
Your Surroundings Change.
OK let's be honest, how many of us have stopped talking to someone because you moved or they moved away? I know after I moved, I lost touch with everyone from my old neighborhood. Or one that's even more common, stopped talking to friends because your schedules don't line up? That one is frustrating, but the nice thing about having a phone is you can always at least keep in contact with them.
Sometimes it's for the Better.
Sometimes, we try to constantly put others ahead of ourselves. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but when someone else expects you to do it or gets mad when you don't. Just because someone is your friend, doesn't mean you need to always put them first. Also, it's better when you don't have someone dragging you down all the time. Friends are supposed to lift you up, not drag you down.
You Can Meet New People.
The saying goes, when one door closes another door opens, and the same goes with meeting people. While it's always hard to let someone go, but there's always an opportunity to meet someone new. After one of my best friends and I drifted apart, I was shocked and devastated because at the time she someone that I told everything to and someone I cared about. But when we stopped talking, I started growing closer to some new people, and now they're my best friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world.
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