Yes, You Will Lose Friends Along The Way, Yes, It Will Be OK

Yes, You Will Lose Friends Along The Way, Yes, It Will Be OK

It may not feel okay in the exact moment, but losing that friend is not the end of the world.
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Growing up consists of many things. Growing up can also be a very tough thing to do.

At some point through life we are bound to lose friends. Sometimes it’s because of a fight, or moving off to college, or maybe a reason that’s not certain. There are many possible reasons to losing a friend and sometimes they may have even been your absolute best friend. No matter which friend it was, or how long the friendship had lasted, or how the friendship ended, it’s not the easiest thing to deal with.

Becoming the best of friends with someone opens up so many new things. You imagine the infinite memories the two of you will make, and you never really picture the friendship coming to an end. There are usually no thoughts of arguments, miscommunications, or distance separating the two of you and the bond that you have created. It is not until reality strikes and it sets in that losing friends has become more common than keeping them.

It may not feel okay in the exact moment, but losing that friend is not the end of the world. They came into your life for a reason, for a time, for a purpose, but that also means they’re leaving for a certain reason too. We may not understand why, but there is a reason and life moves on.

Sometimes people can hold you back and you may not realize it at first. That friend may be relying on just you to bring them joy, happiness, and company. This can become very tiring and draining. This in turn, can begin to hold you back. It may feel like they don’t support you, or they aren’t happy for you. Maybe it’s time to let them go, so you can focus on your goals in life and start moving forward.

When you think about it, have you ever had a friend who really wasn’t a friend? Maybe it is for the best that the person you called your “best friend” is no longer your best friend. They may have mistreated you, talked behind your back, or just been a bad friend for you. Eventually you see someone’s true intentions and they may not be the best, so it’s best that they are no longer so close to you.

No matter the reason, you must realize that the person is gone or no longer you best friend for a reason. Sure, you may still occasionally speak, but it’s not like it used to be. Friends come and go, but life continues and we must keep going.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay

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You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.

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