Yes, You Will Lose Friends Along The Way, Yes, It Will Be OK

Yes, You Will Lose Friends Along The Way, Yes, It Will Be OK

It may not feel okay in the exact moment, but losing that friend is not the end of the world.
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Growing up consists of many things. Growing up can also be a very tough thing to do.

At some point through life we are bound to lose friends. Sometimes it’s because of a fight, or moving off to college, or maybe a reason that’s not certain. There are many possible reasons to losing a friend and sometimes they may have even been your absolute best friend. No matter which friend it was, or how long the friendship had lasted, or how the friendship ended, it’s not the easiest thing to deal with.

Becoming the best of friends with someone opens up so many new things. You imagine the infinite memories the two of you will make, and you never really picture the friendship coming to an end. There are usually no thoughts of arguments, miscommunications, or distance separating the two of you and the bond that you have created. It is not until reality strikes and it sets in that losing friends has become more common than keeping them.

It may not feel okay in the exact moment, but losing that friend is not the end of the world. They came into your life for a reason, for a time, for a purpose, but that also means they’re leaving for a certain reason too. We may not understand why, but there is a reason and life moves on.

Sometimes people can hold you back and you may not realize it at first. That friend may be relying on just you to bring them joy, happiness, and company. This can become very tiring and draining. This in turn, can begin to hold you back. It may feel like they don’t support you, or they aren’t happy for you. Maybe it’s time to let them go, so you can focus on your goals in life and start moving forward.

When you think about it, have you ever had a friend who really wasn’t a friend? Maybe it is for the best that the person you called your “best friend” is no longer your best friend. They may have mistreated you, talked behind your back, or just been a bad friend for you. Eventually you see someone’s true intentions and they may not be the best, so it’s best that they are no longer so close to you.

No matter the reason, you must realize that the person is gone or no longer you best friend for a reason. Sure, you may still occasionally speak, but it’s not like it used to be. Friends come and go, but life continues and we must keep going.

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Dear Mom, Now That I'm Older

A letter to the woman who made me the woman I am today.
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Dear Mom,

Now that I'm older, I definitely appreciate you a lot more than I did as a kid. I appreciate the little things, from the random text messages to constantly tagging me on Facebook in your "funny" photos and sending me pins of stuff I like on Pinterest. Now that I'm older, I can look back and realize that everything I am is all because of you. You've made me strong but realize it's okay to cry. You've shown me how a mother gives everything to her children to give them a better life than she had, even when she's left with nothing. And, most importantly you've taught me to never give up and without this, I would not be where I am today.

Mom, now that I'm older, I realize that you're the best friend I'm ever going to have. You cheer me on when I try new things and support me in deciding to be whatever person I want to be. Thank you for never telling me I can't do something and helping me figure out ways to be the best woman I can be. Your love for me is unconditional. They say true, unconditional love can only come from God, but mom, I think you're a pretty close second.

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Now that I'm older, I don't get to see you as much. But not seeing you as much just makes the times I do get to see you the absolute best, and I look forward to it every time. Now that I'm older, I'm not going to live at home. But, I promise to always come back because I know the door is always open. Your house is always going to be my home, and no other place is going to be the same.

Now that I'm older, I realize how much I miss you taking care of me. I miss you making me dinner, making sure I was doing well in school, and taking me to endless appointments. I miss you waking me up for school and then waking me up again because I didn't listen the first time.

But, Mom, now that I'm older, I can see all that you've done for me. I can look back and see how big of a brat I was but you still loved me (and let me live) anyways. I can understand why you did certain things and frankly, you're one bada** of a woman.

To have you as my mom and my best friend has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. So, Mom, now that I'm older, thank you, for everything.

Love,

Your Daughter

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I'm The Girl Who Will ALWAYS Put 'Sisters Before Misters'

In the future, I know that when I start dating I won't forget that my best girl friends come first.

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As Valentine's Day comes up next month, and I am sitting on a couch watching a Buzzfeed Unsolved marathon of season one of "True Crime" and "Supernatural," I think back to the past year and my history with my love life. The more I think about it, the more I am fine with it.

Nothing major has happened. I still haven't had my first kiss, or my first significant other, still a virgin, and all is fine.

This can be seen as a follow up to my article where I talked about how I am 19, never had a significant other, and I am still having the time of my life. Now, as I am in a new decade of my life (yes, I'm talking about my twenties), nothing much has changed.

But now I am in a point where I am sticking with a phrase. That phrase is the well-known "sisters before misters."

A feminine play on the phrase "bros before hoes," where male friends say that their friends come first and any significant other, specifically female, comes second, "sisters before misters" means that female friends come first before any significant others, specifically of the male species. A majority of my friends are girls and while I do also have friends that are guys (hi, Sean and Josh), I know that I will never think of dating them in the future as they are like brothers to me.

But I know that when I get into my first relationship, I will definitely make time for my friends.

A while ago, I was (maybe still am) texting a guy that is close friends with one of my other close friends. My friend and I have established that if I were to get into a relationship with this guy, she knows that she can trust him with me (but if he hurts me, then he is dead). But another thing that we had established was that I was hers first and then his second, no matter how many times he said I was his, and even I said that she came first hands down.

Yes, I know that I have been single for 20 years of my life. Yes, I also dabbled a bit in dating apps like Tinder and sometimes Bumble. I only went back to Tinder after a year of not having, but after the small dabble I did in 2018 I decided to stop doing Tinder. But I still have it just in case (or if I am just a bored college student and I have nothing to do in my life which I definitely do have the stuff to do in my life).

But as time goes on for me, and I continue to get older and go through the rest of my college career, I do not know when I will find my quote-unquote "one." It could be during college, or it could be after college and I meet my one and only at my place of work (where my parents met), but I would just know that I will make sure to place my lady friends that have been there for a good point of my life first.

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