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The 10 Unspoken Commandments Of The Girl Code

The punishment for breaking any of the rules: Seven years of "Twilight" memes.

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When did being a good friend get so hard? There are enough problems in the world to have to deal with even more mean girls. Since so many young women seem to struggle with the basics of no judgment, no backstabbing, etc., I brought rules to the table.

Here are the top 10 girl code commandments, part one.

1. Never date a friend's ex or crush. Ever!

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What are you, flipping stupid? You could have anyone. You could be Shawn Mendes wife, instead, you choose your friend's man, ex-man, or crush. You're scraping at the bottom of the bucket for someone who, 50% of the time, is doing it for revenge. I do not need a degree to see how little you think of yourself when you're taking your bestie's sloppy seconds. Great women don't do dumb stuff they can't recover from.

2. Gas your fellow woman up when she looks amazing!

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If she looks great: Tell her she's Beyonce. Treat her like the Queen and Goddess we all know she is. Women critique the crap out of their own bodies, it is so difficult to love and accept one's own body.

Be the wife she wishes she could have. Set the standard for her future man. You are the bestie, be that bestie.

3. And calm that girl down when she looks terrible.

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We all love our fellow woman but it is your responsibility as a phenomenal bestie to stop your wife dead in her tracks when she looks a hot mess. Tell her when her makeup looks too much for a first date, or when you know she won't get hired in a hoodie.

4. If you arrive together, you leave together.

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Link arms, march out together. At the end of the night: pile into an Uber and drag yo self home.

5. Your bestie's secrets die with you.

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Got a secret, can you keep it?

The shallowest people are those that spread private secrets like wildfire. Let me guess, only God can judge you? God doesn't like snitches.

6. Check in on every and any girl.

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If you see a woman who is talking to a man and she seems uncomfortable — pretend she's your best friend. Ask her how her day is, offer her a ride home, go get McDonald's, have a sleepover. It doesn't even have to be walking up to a stranger in a club; let your sorority sisters know they're appreciated, text your BFF or let your childhood best friend know that they're missed.

7. Any girl can be a potential sleepover buddy!

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Speaking of sleepovers: who's down for face masks, '90s chick flicks and wine night? This girl.

8. Give your friends all the hugs.

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Hug your friends, love your friends and let them know they're loved.

9. When he breaks her heart.... kill him.

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I would never recommend murder but if he ruins her life, ruin his but in a better fashion. Leaked her nudes? Sue for defamation of image and non-consensual porn. Cheated? Let's see if the other woman knows she's "the other woman." Blocks you on social media? Let's see if his mom knows how he treats women.*

*Please don't spend your whole life obsessed with getting revenge especially if you are unable to get revenge. I've had first-hand experiences with karma and she drives a double-decker bus.

10. And if you have an extra tampon, help a sista out!

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Sweeter words have never been spoken.

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The 10 Unspoken Commandments Of The Girl Code

The punishment for breaking any of the rules: Seven years of "Twilight" memes.

1. Never date a friend's ex or crush. Ever!

2. Gas your fellow woman up when she looks amazing!

3. And calm that girl down when she looks terrible.

4. If you arrive together, you leave together.

5. Your bestie's secrets die with you.

6. Check in on every and any girl.

7. Any girl can be a potential sleepover buddy!

8. Give your friends all the hugs.

9. When he breaks her heart.... kill him.

10. And if you have an extra tampon, help a sista out!

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

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