Give Yourself Time To Grieve

Give Yourself Time To Grieve

There is life after death.
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Losing someone is extremely difficult. There is no guide on how to overcome grief. If there was life after death, it would be a lot easier. However, it is not that easy. There is not a nice package to stuff all your emotions in. In all reality, you must let them outside of that box and allow grief to take it place.

It is said there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, what if, depression and acceptance. They are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. Just keep in mind everyone grieves differently, but it helps to know you are not the only one experimenting these feelings.

Denial is the first stage of grief. This maybe that stage where you are trying to be strong for your family or other loved ones. You almost seem numb to the pain you are feeling. Everything around you seems to be a daze. It is a mixture of shock and denial. As crazy as it sounds there is a little grace in denial. It helps you cope from the beginning. As an individual, who has loss someone close, I remember telling myself my sister was gone somewhere, but of course not that type of gone during this stage.

Once the numbness fades a sense of anger begins to take over. I experienced all types of anger. I was angry at God for taking my sister. I wanted him to heal her on Earth. I was angry with the doctors for not saving her. I was angry at my friends that did not show during the time, I needed them the most. My heart became angry. However, I believe that is okay. I believe it is necessary to express those emotions of anger. Do not feel guilty for this. We are human and it is part of this process.


During the "what if" stage you may blame yourself. We just want life the way it was before. We begin to question everything: What if we would have seen the signs of suicide? What if we had the tumor sooner? What if we hadn't had that surgery? What if they took swimming lessons/ What if I told them they could not go out that night? What if we had gone to church more? The list is endless. There is nothing you could have done differently, no matter what could of happened. Unfortunately, no matter how much our heart denies it, it was their time to go.

After evaluating everything that has happened you may begin to feel empty. You have no hope or desire to do anything. You would rather withdrawal from life and grieve. As someone who has faced and overcame depression, I know the negative stigma associated with being depressed. However, it is important that we face depression. It is natural to face this when losing a loved one. I do ask if you are experiencing any thoughts of hurting yourself in any way please contact your doctor or The National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.

The final stage is acceptance. However, this does not mean everything is alright and you have moved on. Honestly you may never feel "alright" again. There is a whole that will forever remain in your heart. This stage is accepting the reality that you will face life without your loved one physically being there with you. This is becoming the new permanent reality. You have to try and live in this new world. This does not mean you will not have bad days. It has been almost three years and I still have bad days. However, it means you will also have good days. That is OK. Do not feel guilty for that either. I can assure you, your loved one would want you to rejoice in life.

"We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time."

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care In Your Everyday Life, In 20 Minutes Or Less

Simple ways to start taking care of yourself.

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Life is overwhelming and distracting so it's easy to forget about yourself sometimes, but practicing small self-care acts is easy. Making time for yourself every day isn't selfish and is really good for your mental health. I think it's important for everyone to spend time doing things that make them happy and more calm, even if you only dedicate 20 minutes each day. Putting yourself first can lead to growth so many other aspects of your life.

Obviously, each person is allowed to practice self-care in their own unique way, but here are some ideas to get you started!

1. Do something new. 

2. Make a list of things you need to get done that week. 

3. Drink some hot tea. 

4. Go for a walk on a scenic trail.

5. Paint your nails.

6. Have a good laugh.

7. Buy yourself flowers.

8. Light a candle.

9. Do some tidying up.

10. Don't feel bad for saying 'no.'

11. Listen to music.

12. Slow down.

13. Drink a smoothie.

14. Run mindless errands.

15. Write down your goals for the week.

16. Talk to someone about the future.

17. Wake up early and get coffee. 

18. Take care of a plant. 

19. Take a bubble bath. 

20. Give yourself a compliment.

21. Give a stranger a compliment.

22. Watch a movie.

23. Put your phone down.

24. Declutter your personal space.

25. Go to bed early. 

26. Pray or meditate. 

27. Go for a drive. 

28. Make it a habit to stargaze. 

29. Read a book. 

30. Read poems. 

31. Sing loudly. 

32. Make a list of things you're grateful for. 

33. Drink a lot of water. 

34. Put on make-up for no reason.

35. Watch funny videos. 

36. Take a deep breath. 

37. Distance yourself from negativity. 

38. Unfollow people you don't care to follow on social media. 

39. Have a pajama day. 

40. Read an inspirational book. 

41. Call your parents/ loved ones. 

42. Donate old clothing. 

43. Dedicate a day out of the week to not eating meat. 

44. Do a fun craft or DIY project. 

45. Put on a face mask and relax. 

46. Do a small workout. 

47. Take a power nap. 

48. Listen to a podcast. 

49. Open a window. 

50. Open your curtains in the morning to let in natural light. 

51. Make your bed. 

52. Cook dinner instead of eating out. 

53. Play/ cuddle with an animal. 

54. At the end of the day, think of all the positive things that happened.

55. Moisturize. 

56. Buy a comforting blanket. 

57. Give someone a hug. 

58. Create a vision board. 

59. Have some alone time.

60. Enjoy the sun on your skin. 

61. Dance like nobody is watching.

62. Walk in the rain every once in a while. 

63. Drive with the windows down. 

64. Give someone a gift for no reason. 

65. Get a massage. 

66. Do something that gets your adrenaline running. 

67. Spend the day at the library or a book store. 

68. Organize your work space/ binders. 

69. Spend a weekend in. 

70. Recognize hard work and reward yourself. 

71. Sign up for a work out class. 

72. Eat lunch with a friend. 

73. Spend the day helping others. 

74. Get your hair done. 

75. Have a good cry. 

76. Use sticky notes. 

77. Color code your planner. 

78. Print out pictures and hang them up. 

79. Hang motivational quotes on your mirror and read them when you get ready. 

80. Do random acts of kindness. 

81. Buy fuzzy socks. 

82. Redecorate or rearrange furniture. 

83. Be present. 

84. Set a new years resolution. 

85. Make a bucket list. 

86. Stretch in the morning. 

87. Watch an interesting documentary. 

88. Make a music playlist.

89. Watch the sunrise or sunset. 

90. Explore somewhere new.

91. Be slow to respond to negativity. 

92. Have a game night with friends. 

93. Buy concert tickets. 

94. Have a nightly routine before bed. 

95. Eat your favorite dessert. 

96. Do something you've been putting off. 

97. Invest in essential oils. 

98. Manage your finances. 

99. Buy a new outfit. 

100. Make your own gratitude list. 

Try at least one of these every week and see how you feel! I guarantee you will notice a difference in the way you are living your life.

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50 Instagram Captions For The New Year’s Resolution You’ll Drop By March

Anything is better than, "new year, new me".

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When the new year starts, we all start rolling out our New Year resolutions.

Some people say that in the new year, they'll start going to the gym, followed by them posting a selfie on Instagram with the caption, "New year, new me". If getting in your shape is your 2019 New Year's resolution (or if you have a different idea), here are 50 Instagram captions you can and should use.

1. "The best is yet to come."

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Simple, but effective.

2. "12 new chapters, 365 new chances."

Again, simple, but this one is pretty clever.

3. "365 new days, 365 more excuses"

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Or maybe this is more your style. The choice is yours.

4. "My New Year's resolution is to remember to write '2019' instead of '2018'.

I can't be the only one who does this until almost the middle of the year.

5. "Why overthink when you can overdrink?"

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What a way to bring in the new year, am I right?

6. "I would lose weight for my New Year's resolution, but I hate losing."

Don't we all?

7. "Let's start off the new year by being incredibly thankful that we aren't in Times Square right now..."

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While I've always wanted to go to Times Square to watch the ball drop on NYE, I can't imagine being in a crowd of that many people. I'll just watch it from the comfort of my own couch, thanks.

8. "Sometimes all we need is a fresh start... and lots and lots of (insert alcoholic drink here)."

You can say champagne, whiskey, tequila, whatever fits your lifestyle.

9. "It only happens once a year."

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Just like the diet you promised you'd keep for your New Year's resolution...

10. "There are far, far better things than anything we leave behind."

-C.S Lewis

11. "A little party never killed nobody."

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Nothin' wrong with a little Fergie to spice up your Instagram caption.

12. "My New Year's Resolution is to be more optimistic by keeping my cup half full... with (insert fave alcoholic drink).

Could be champagne, could be rum, but either way, there's a ton of optimism.

13. "Every day is one step closer to summer 2018."

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If you're one of those who count down every year until summer, this one is definitely for you.

14. "I don't call them New Year's Resolutions, I call them 'casual promises to myself that I'm under no obligation to fulfill'".

15. "A New Year's Resolution is one thing that goes in one year and out the other."

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Or it comes in one day and leaves the next. Same thing, ya know.

16. "A New Year's resolution is only a to-do list for the first week of January."

Kinda like a grocery list.

17. "Prepared to slay 2019."

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I mean, you could say "sleigh" if you wanna change it up a little.

18. "The calm before the storm."

This is the perfect caption to your pre-party selfie.

19. "Tonight we drink, tomorrow we moan in agony."

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Don't party too hard on NYE, kids.

20. "Save water, drink (alcoholic drink)."

And like the others, any alcoholic drink is acceptable.

21. "Hold on to the memories, they will hold onto you."

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-Taylor Swift

Because we all love a good Taylor Swift lyric, am I right?

22. "No champagne, no gain."

23. "Poor quality pic, high quality friends."

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Acceptable any day, not solely for NYE.

24. "Sips about to go down."

25. "Tonight, I'm making pour decisions."

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See the pun? It's punny.

26. "New year, same ole' me."

Because most of us don't drastically change when the clock strikes midnight.

27. "May all of your troubles last as long as your New Year's resolutions."

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This is appropriate because, ya know, most resolutions don't stick around.

28. "Too much of anything is bad, but too much champagne is just right."

29. "2018, you couldn't have set the bar any lower."

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30. "Don't look back. You're not going that way."

Go into the new year with a new attitude.

31. "Sometimes all we need is a fresh start."

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Which, a new year is pretty much a fresh start. Make it anything you want it to be.

32. "I'm wearing the hat. Where's the party?"

We all love a good Full House quote.

33. "All I see is magic."

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This is the perfect quote for a picture of that midnight kiss or a ball dropping.

34. "Page 1 of 365."

It works if you're starting your New Year's resolution on January 1st, otherwise, this one doesn't apply.

35. "What can you do today that you were not capable of 12 months ago?"

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Kinda inspiring, kinda a slap in the face. The choice is yours.

36. "My New Year's resolution is to follow through with my New Year's resolution."

37. "This year, I will be stronger, braver, kinder, and unstoppable."

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38. "My New Year's resolution is to stop lying about myself about making lifestyle changes."

Brutal, but true. Brutally honest, if you will.

39. "I no longer believe in New Year's Resolutions. I believe in day's resolutions."

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I guess that's one way to keep yourself accountable, right?

40. "Here's to another year and another chance to get it right."

You'll get there... even if it takes 2 or 3 or 10 years.

41. "New year, new feels, new chances, same dreams, fresh starts."

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Who doesn't love a good inspirational quote for an Instagram caption?

42. "You can always start again."

For when your resolutions fall apart by March.

43. "Let go of what's holding you back."

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You can keep your resolutions if you let go of what's holding you back. Talk about #inspirational, huh?

44. "And now we welcome the new year; full of things that have never been."

Time to do all of the things you've never imagined you could or would do.

45. "He who breaks a New Year's resolution is a weakling; he who makes one is a fool."

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-F.M Knowles

You don't want to be a fool, do you? That's how you can get out of having a New Year's resolution.

46. "Trust the magic of new beginnings."

Now THIS is a perfect caption for your first post of the new year.

47. "The new year is yours. What will you do with it?"

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This is also a great way to interact with your followers, ya know?

48. "New year, same me, because I'm already fabulous."

Similar to #26, but has a little extra pizazz to it.

49. "Make it pop like pink champagne."

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Aka make your New Year's resolutions pop like pink champagne.

50. "New year, same me, bigger goals."

EXCEPT, this year, you need to actually achieve these goals. You got this.

With all of that being said, I hope you've found a great Instagram caption to use for your upcoming post. Here's to 2019 and probably broken resolutions.


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