Dear fellow single ladies,
I want to start off by saying this will not be a sappy letter about how lonely and depressing it is to not be in a relationship. So if that's what you were looking for, I suggest you continue watching marriage proposal videos on YouTube.
I'm not too sure why but being single has earned somewhat of a bad reputation over the past few years, specifically with our generation. In most cases, being single is depicted as a negative trait, or something someone wants to change about themselves. In fact, those that are in a relationship seem to be envied by those who aren't. Now to be clear, being in a relationship can be an extraordinary and beautiful experience in one's life so in no way am I knocking those who are in one.
But what about us single ladies? Why are we so sad about being single all of the time? Sure we've all had those nights where we cry over a bad break up or wish we had a boyfriend to bring us flowers and leave cute comments on our Instagram pictures. Of course, these actions are completely acceptable but have we ever stopped to think about the positive aspects of being single? Probably not. I know I haven't, which is what inspired me to write this letter.
In my opinion, being single can be just as (if not more) exciting as being in a relationship. It gives you an opportunity to find yourself, discover who you truly are. Now I know this all sounds as corny as a message in a fortune cookie but just think about it. When you're not in a relationship, you're pretty much forced to focus all of your energy solely on yourself and what makes you happy. What makes you who you are? What do you like to do? What are your goals and aspirations in life? Self-evaluation is something that is extremely effective, yet very underrated. People are so focused on others that they forget to cherish and love themselves, something that can be life changing.
Now, would it be nice to have a significant other to love us, constantly tell us we're beautiful and shower us with gifts? Of course, it would. But why can't we be that person for ourselves? We need to embrace and love ourselves before we can let someone else into our lives and love us. Many relationships become very unstable due to people getting caught up with their partner and losing their identity. The age at which people are getting married is decreasing each year, causing the divorce rate to skyrocket. This is because people have a fear of being single and rush into relationships that may not work for them. It's important to establish self-worth and self-love before letting someone else into your life to love you.
The way I see it is us single ladies are still in that phase of learning to love ourselves. We are strong and beautiful and need to embrace who we truly are, and somewhere along the way someone else will realize that. So for now, let your hair down, enjoy life, and don't rush into any relationship. Let life take its course and enjoy it as it is. Being single is a beautiful thing, and it needs to earn back the reputation it deserves.
Sincerely,
A girl who is learning to love being single
