A Letter To The Guy Who Doesn't Know What He Wants

A Letter To The Guy Who Doesn't Know What He Wants

Sincerely, a girl who can do way better.

To the guy in my life who doesn't know what he wants,

I remember when we first met junior year of high school. I was introduced to you by one of my best friends. I had to admit at first, I didn't think much of you; I assumed you would be any other guy who I would end up walking past in the halls and saying nothing more than a civil "hey". As the school year went on, I saw you more often than I imagined, but we hadn't really built a strong friendship just yet. It wasn't until the day we both found out we were working at the same day camp that we began to think more of each other. I believed that this experience is why we started to talk more often than we did.

On the first day of our week-long orientation, I was frightened. I thought I would be alone at camp in the hot, sticky, blazing sun from 8:00-4:00 all alone until I got that one text from you. You wanted to meet up with me, so we did. We sat together all day until we were dismissed to go home. The next day, the director told me I would be taking on the role of the arts and crafts specialists because of a lack of staff in that department. Yes, I was upset, but I knew I would be seeing you and your campers twice a week, every single week. I started to look forward to that time because we would both laugh and joke around. You left your clipboard in the room every single time; I thought it was hilarious. As the long, dragged-out weeks of camp moved on, I noticed something. Out of the corner of my eye, I caught you staring at me. Not once, but multiple times. Not only that, but you seemed to genuinely enjoy our weekly conversations. I realized I started to, as well. It was a relieving break from a jam-packed day of whiny and exhausted children, talking to someone my own age. I started to laugh at your jokes, it was pure enjoyment for me, something very rare during this job.

It wasn't until the beginning of September that everything changed. I remember that phone vibration, just expecting a text from one of my friends. But it wasn't: it was you. You had just asked me out. I was stunned; you almost made me drop my phone in disbelief. I didn't want to seem desperate and answer right away, but as soon as I did, it was an automatic yes. We planned it for a week later. It was an official date, and you even asked me to be your girlfriend. I was ecstatic. I got little hints from you, such as when you stalked my Facebook and liked one of my old profile pictures. Little did I know that it would not turned out as planned. The night before our first date, I asked you where we were going. You left me on "read". I didn't think much of it until the following morning until you asked for us to stay friends. I was confused. The previous week, you were all over me, and now you weren't? You even asked me to homecoming and then bailed on me two days before, leaving me without a date.

We ended up not talking for two months until you were all over me again. You seemed different this time: you were constantly asking me if I wanted to be your girlfriend; if I wanted to date you; if I wanted to kiss you. I decided to give you a second chance and say yes, but nothing ever happened. You started snapchatting me, asking inappropriate questions. It started to piss me off. I then found out your friends dared you to, and it wasn't till then that I became extremely angry with you.

Again, another two months passed until you texted me again. You always called me "cutie", always called me "babe", you said you loved me and I said I loved you too, and you always said good morning and good night. By then, we were almost basically a couple. We spent our lunches chatting and joking around; you were sneaking glances at me as I ate. You said you wanted to date me again; you constantly asked if I liked you. I fell head over heels for you, even after all you did. I would be nervous to see you at school. All my friends basically made fun of me, constantly bringing up how cute of a "couple" we were together. We ended up going to prom together, we even danced, yet it was still awkward. But I enjoyed it as I looked into your eyes.

Again, as I expected, we stopped talking after prom. But as soon as college started, you were all over me once again. That was the last straw. I then realized that you weren't the right guy for me. Not only that, but I was angry. You didn't treat me right. I knew you couldn't handle the stress of having a girlfriend. I was angry and upset. I was so excited because I would have a shoulder to cry on, I would be able to lay down on you like all couples do, we would take cute couple photos with me on your back, I was supposed to have a valentine for Valentine's day, I would have dates for future dances, I would have somebody who would text me cute good morning messages to make my day. Part of me still missed you: I had pictures of us at prom in my dorm room, you were even my phone background. It came to the point where I decided none of that would be worth it if you weren't devoted.

So listen to this: I am waiting for the right guy who knows what he wants and can be devoted to a relationship. I am waiting for a guy who won't bail on me right before a date, who will not ignore me for months and then come back. So guess what I'm going to say? Here it is: know what you want before you start dating girls. And make sure you can handle it because I am way more than you can handle, I am more than enough for you.

Sincerely, a girl who can do way better.

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We Need to Talk About Logan Paul

A conversation needs to be started.

I am never the type of person to get involved or even be concerned about YouTube drama. A lot of the time, it is petty and not worth the energy that is typically spent on it. However, a problem surfaced and was brought to my attention by multiple friends and family members.

Logan Paul.

I remember this guy from Vine. I didn't think much of him. I just thought he was a cocky kid who made average vines. I didn't follow him on YouTube, Instagram or Twitter after Vine got deleted, so I never really kept up with any of his whereabouts nor did I follow the Jake and Logan Paul drama.

Recently, he posted a video in Japan's Aokigahara forest, otherwise known as the suicide forest. There are many problems with his intent of filming a video in such a place, but that is not the main issue in this video. While traveling through the forest, Logan Paul and his friends come across a person who committed suicide. He then began to film the person, blurring his face, but showing the man's hands and torso.

The problem with his latest stunt is that it is way bigger than him. What he did deserves a conversation about all people and society, not just Logan Paul. I don't have any hate towards Logan and don't have any intention or desire to bash or join the hate bandwagon that is sometimes hard to fall into. However, I will not hold my tongue and let my seven-year-old brother watch an adult post disturbing images dealing with suicide.

What needs to be said about the disgust of this video has already been said and there are several great YouTube videos from other creators, i.e. Jenna and Julien, Cody Ko, and Christian DelGrosso. If you need more clarification of the contents of the video, then I suggest watching one of their videos.

My main issue is the kids that are involved. Logan Paul's fanbase is largely impressionable kids from the ages of eight to thirteen. Before Logan took down the video, the video had already received upwards of 50,000 likes. Meaning, these kids have no idea that this was wrong and then continue to stand up for him.

I am not a parent and have no intention on telling parents how to raise their children, but in my personal opinion, these kids have no business watching Logan Paul and any of his antics. Just because this video has become the most popular, by no means does that mean any of his other videos have questionable actions. These kids look up to Logan Paul and therefore will take on the persona of Logan Paul, even if by a small fraction.

I understand kids will find a way to watch something that they want to watch, but a parent should at least be aware and have the conversation that it was disturbing and unnerving, but at the very least wrong. Without this clarification, kids could grow up to think that what Logan Paul did was okay, in which it was not, on any level.

I have seen multiple people on all different forms of media asking how these kinds of people become famous, and as a closing sentence, I'd like to answer that question.

We, as a society, have the power to change the world and the people who have the spotlight. It is up to us who we see and who is famous or in the public eye. If we see something that is not moral, I believe it is our job as a society to change the tone.

Spread love, not hate.


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Why 'The Disaster Artist' Is Genius

“The Disaster Artist” takes us on the journey of how the beloved, insanely quotable film “The Room” was conceived.

Tommy Wiseau’s, “The Room,” is a disastrous movie like no other. It’s cult following only seems to be increasing with the release of “The Disaster Artist,” directed by Golden Globe winner, James Franco, bringing “The Room’s” legacy full circle.


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We may not know his age, origin, or even where his money comes from, but it’s safe to say we’ve seen his vision. We all have our dreams; some may be so big we’re embarrassed to say them aloud. Tommy shows dreamers everywhere that you have to believe in yourself and the strength of your dreams. Sometimes you just have to go for it.

Tommy's costar and friend, Greg Sestero, wrote “The Disaster Artist: My Life Inside The Room, the Greatest Bad Movie Ever Made,” which led them to the blockbuster directed by James Franco.

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The film felt so organic with actors seeming to be the people they are emulating, especially director and producer, James Franco. He went as far as directing the cast in costume and in character as Tommy. Members of the cast had to be warned that they were going on to a strange set of scenes.

Halfway through "The Disaster Artist," it became apparent that the film the characters were creating wasn’t going to be a critically acclaimed Oscar winner, to say the least. The headspace of Tommy suddenly became real. “The Room” didn’t just feel like a movie that we characterize as a drama and comedy, but his hard work and dedication as well. Most of all, his dream became realized.


While "The Disaster Artist" is a comedy, it was surprisingly uplifting. It’s not just about the making of “The Room,” but also the bond shared between Tommy and Greg. Even now, you can see that they have a close friendship that transcended so many years. In life, it’s rare to find life-long friendships.

From the start, they supported each other and made up for what the other lacked. Who knew they would be where they are today.

"The Disaster Artist" was able to connect so many different elements to make a movie many enjoy, regardless of if they are familiar with "The Room." It's a different type of comedy and story that was told. It feels like we were apart of its history as Franco's portrayal of Tommy earned a Golden Globe.

Entering Tommy's headspace is unforgettable. If you're wondering what Tommy was going to say during the ceremony, wish granted:

"If a lot of people loved each other, the world would be a better place to live.”

You may call him crazy, but that's a damn good message if you ask me.

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