A Letter To The Guy Who Doesn't Know What He Wants

A Letter To The Guy Who Doesn't Know What He Wants

Sincerely, a girl who can do way better.

To the guy in my life who doesn't know what he wants,

I remember when we first met junior year of high school. I was introduced to you by one of my best friends. I had to admit at first, I didn't think much of you; I assumed you would be any other guy who I would end up walking past in the halls and saying nothing more than a civil "hey". As the school year went on, I saw you more often than I imagined, but we hadn't really built a strong friendship just yet. It wasn't until the day we both found out we were working at the same day camp that we began to think more of each other. I believed that this experience is why we started to talk more often than we did.

On the first day of our week-long orientation, I was frightened. I thought I would be alone at camp in the hot, sticky, blazing sun from 8:00-4:00 all alone until I got that one text from you. You wanted to meet up with me, so we did. We sat together all day until we were dismissed to go home. The next day, the director told me I would be taking on the role of the arts and crafts specialists because of a lack of staff in that department. Yes, I was upset, but I knew I would be seeing you and your campers twice a week, every single week. I started to look forward to that time because we would both laugh and joke around. You left your clipboard in the room every single time; I thought it was hilarious. As the long, dragged-out weeks of camp moved on, I noticed something. Out of the corner of my eye, I caught you staring at me. Not once, but multiple times. Not only that, but you seemed to genuinely enjoy our weekly conversations. I realized I started to, as well. It was a relieving break from a jam-packed day of whiny and exhausted children, talking to someone my own age. I started to laugh at your jokes, it was pure enjoyment for me, something very rare during this job.

It wasn't until the beginning of September that everything changed. I remember that phone vibration, just expecting a text from one of my friends. But it wasn't: it was you. You had just asked me out. I was stunned; you almost made me drop my phone in disbelief. I didn't want to seem desperate and answer right away, but as soon as I did, it was an automatic yes. We planned it for a week later. It was an official date, and you even asked me to be your girlfriend. I was ecstatic. I got little hints from you, such as when you stalked my Facebook and liked one of my old profile pictures. Little did I know that it would not turned out as planned. The night before our first date, I asked you where we were going. You left me on "read". I didn't think much of it until the following morning until you asked for us to stay friends. I was confused. The previous week, you were all over me, and now you weren't? You even asked me to homecoming and then bailed on me two days before, leaving me without a date.

We ended up not talking for two months until you were all over me again. You seemed different this time: you were constantly asking me if I wanted to be your girlfriend; if I wanted to date you; if I wanted to kiss you. I decided to give you a second chance and say yes, but nothing ever happened. You started snapchatting me, asking inappropriate questions. It started to piss me off. I then found out your friends dared you to, and it wasn't till then that I became extremely angry with you.

Again, another two months passed until you texted me again. You always called me "cutie", always called me "babe", you said you loved me and I said I loved you too, and you always said good morning and good night. By then, we were almost basically a couple. We spent our lunches chatting and joking around; you were sneaking glances at me as I ate. You said you wanted to date me again; you constantly asked if I liked you. I fell head over heels for you, even after all you did. I would be nervous to see you at school. All my friends basically made fun of me, constantly bringing up how cute of a "couple" we were together. We ended up going to prom together, we even danced, yet it was still awkward. But I enjoyed it as I looked into your eyes.

Again, as I expected, we stopped talking after prom. But as soon as college started, you were all over me once again. That was the last straw. I then realized that you weren't the right guy for me. Not only that, but I was angry. You didn't treat me right. I knew you couldn't handle the stress of having a girlfriend. I was angry and upset. I was so excited because I would have a shoulder to cry on, I would be able to lay down on you like all couples do, we would take cute couple photos with me on your back, I was supposed to have a valentine for Valentine's day, I would have dates for future dances, I would have somebody who would text me cute good morning messages to make my day. Part of me still missed you: I had pictures of us at prom in my dorm room, you were even my phone background. It came to the point where I decided none of that would be worth it if you weren't devoted.

So listen to this: I am waiting for the right guy who knows what he wants and can be devoted to a relationship. I am waiting for a guy who won't bail on me right before a date, who will not ignore me for months and then come back. So guess what I'm going to say? Here it is: know what you want before you start dating girls. And make sure you can handle it because I am way more than you can handle, I am more than enough for you.

Sincerely, a girl who can do way better.

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80 Nicki Minaj Lyrics Perfect For Instagram Captions

"Yo, you seen my last pic, go double-tap that for me."

Nicki Minaj lets the world know about her amazing Instagram skills in Beyonce's "Flawless," when she raps "Instagram another flawless pic." Do you have a #Flawless Instagram picture but need a clever caption to go with it? The Queen of Rap has plenty of Insta-worthy song lyrics.

*(Some lyrics have been edited to keep this article "PG". Feel free to look up the real Nicki Minaj lyrics if you hate the radio edit.)

When you want to diss a hater:

    1. "You couldn't get a fan if it was hangin' from the ceilin."
    2. "I'm throwing shade like it's sunny."
    3. "I'm in my own lane, you ain't in my category."
    4. "These (girls) couldn’t test me even if their name was Pop Quiz."
    5. "Yo, people will love you and support you when it's beneficial. I'ma forgive, I won't forget, but I'ma dead the issue."
    6. "Not that I don't got good vision, but I don't see competition."
    7. "I’m Angelina, you Jennifer. Come on (girl), you see where Brad at."
    8. "I look like "yes" and you look like "no"."
    9. "But if you're ugly it's a no text zone."
    10. "If you are my rival, then that means you're suicidal."
    11. "Shout out to my haters, Sorry that you couldn't faze me."
    12. "Trash talk to 'em then I put 'em in a Hefty."
    13. "Like I mean I don't even know why you girls bother at this point. Like give up, it's me, I win, you lose."
    14. "All these haters mad because I'm so established."
    15. "Competition? why yes I would love some."

When you want to tell people how awesome you are:

    16. "If I'm fake I ain't notice, cause my money ain't."
    17. "You can hate me, but why knock my hustle? I'ma be the queen, no matter how they shuffle."
    18. "Let me make this clear, I’m not difficult, I’m just ’bout my business."
    19. "I'm feelin' myself."
    20. "Excuse me honey, but nobody's in my lane."
    21. "Put me on a dollar cause I'm who they trust in."
    22. "I don’t say “Hi”, I say “Keys to the Benz.”"
    23. "I've been hot since flip phones" "Running this game for 5 years. Guess that's why my feet hurt."
    24. "Hotter than a middle eastern climate."
    25. "My money’s so tall that my Barbies gotta climb it."
    26. "No, I'm not lucky, I'm blessed, yes."
    27."I ain't gotta compete with a single soul."
    28. "'X' in the box, cause ain't nobody checking me."
    29."Excuse me, I'm sorry, I'm really such a lady."
    30. "Honestly I gotta stay as fly as I can be."

When you're hanging with your clique:

    31. "Cherish these nights, cherish these people. Life is a movie, but there will never be a sequel."
    32. "I’m with some hood girls lookin’ back at it."
    33. "We dope girls, we flawless. We the poster girls for all this."
    34. "Pretty gang, always keep them (boys) on geek."
    35. "The night is still young, and so are we!"
    36. "If you ain’t on the team, you playin’ for team D, ’Cause we A-listers, we paid sisters."
    37. "Pretty (girls) only could get in my posse."
    38. "Cause we the mean girls, y-yes we so fetch."
    39. "We fresh to death, down to the shoes."
    40. "Ain't at no wedding but all my girls cake tops."
    41. "Got a whole bunch of pretty gang in my clique."
    42. "Clap for the heavyweight champ, me, But I couldn't do it all alone, WE."
    43. "Put your drinks up, It's a celebration every time we link up."
    44. "I'm with some flawless (girls) because they be mobbin' pretty."

When you're hanging with your significant other:

    45. "He tryna kick it like a ninja."
    46. "He could tell that I was wifey material."
    47. "Ayo, I just wanna be your first go to."
    48. "You got spark, you, you got spunk. You, you got something all the girls want."
    49. Find me in the dark, I'll be in the stars, Find me in your heart, I'm in need of your love."
    50. "They holler at me, but it's you, you."
    51. "I'm not living right, I’m not living if you’re not by my side."
    52. "I just wanna be somebody that can add to, your wife, be a friend, be a teacher and a fan, too."
    53. "I just wanna be your favorite."
    54. "He was the realest, I was the baddest, we was the illest."
    55. "I know you can save me and make me feel alive."
    56. "Yes I'll be your girl, forever your lady, You ain't ever gotta worry, I'm down for you baby."
    57. "Baby you my everything, You all I ever wanted."

When you're single and loving it:

    58. "You could be the king, but watch the queen conquer!"
    59. "Thats why I'm crowned queen, and I ain't looking for the prom king."
    60. "I like independent, like July 4th."
    61. "I ain't never need a man, to take care of me."
    62. "He be like, "Yo, you so legendary", But he can tell just by my face he ain't getting any."
    63. "I am not Jasmine, I am Aladdin."
    64. "I don't even brake when I'm backing up, I'll swerve on a (boy) if he acting up."
    65. "So many boys in here where do I begin?"

When you're just living life:

    66. "I never worry, life is a journey. I just wanna enjoy the ride."
    67. "Tonight is the night that I'ma get twisted."
    68. "I’mma keep it movin', be classy and graceful."
    69. "So make sure the stars is what you aim for, make mistakes though."
    70. "And we gon' hangover the next day. But we will remember this day."
    71. "My only motto in my life is don't lose."
    72. "Take me, or leave me, I'll never be perfect. Believe me, I'm worth it."
    73. "I believe that life is a prize, but to live doesn't mean you're alive."
    74. "I wish that I could have this moment for life."
    75. "If I scream, if I cry, It's only 'cause I feel alive."
    76. "I can't believe it, it's so amazing. This club is heating, this party's blazing.""
    77. "It's so amazing, I figured out this world is ours for the taking."
    78. "I am not a girl that can ever be defined."
    79. "I got next, I'm gonna shine."
    80. "This is my moment I just feel so alive."

Cover Image Credit: Nicki Minaj

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Sandra Oh was Nominated for an Emmy, and can I just say, It's about time

"Yeah, well, don't write your address on your suitcase in case it gets stolen by a psychopath." -Eve, Killing Eve (2018)


The Emmy's are a time for some of the best shows and performances of the year to get honored. This year, a handful of my favorites were up for nomination. "Black Mirror," "Portlandia," "Bob's Burgers," and actress Sandra Oh.

Sandra Oh was nominated for best lead actress in a drama series for "Killing Eve"; the first woman of Asian descent to ever be nominated for this category! Although, this isn't her first time being nominated. She was previously nominated five times for supporting actress for "Grey's Anatomy"––she never won.

I am a huge "Grey's Anatomy" fan. So you're telling me, after Sandra Oh's character, Christina Yang, had suffered an ectopic pregnancy which almost killed her, being left at the altar by Burke, suffered post-traumatic stress disorder after having a gun held to her head in the midst of trying to save Derek, gets cheated on by Hunt, goes through a divorce, survives a plane crash but watched her friends and colleagues die, and not to mention she deserved to win that Harper Avery award but didn't; you're telling me after all these extraordinary performances she didn't win at all? Not one of the five times? Unbelievable.

Although it won't be for "Grey's Anatomy" this time, it's about time Sandra Oh gets the recognition she deserves. Sandra Oh departed from Grey's Anatomy after season ten and has since grabbed viewers' attention for her role in "Killing Eve," the show that she is being nominated for. This show centers around Sandra Oh's character, Eve, a desk-bound M15 officer who finds herself in the midst of a cat and mouse game with an assassin. If you need a new show to watch, this is an intriguing one to start.

To think, Sandra Oh is the FIRST actress of Asian descent to be nominated for this category. It's 2018, and I can't emphasize enough how much representation matters. Growing up as an Asian-American, I found it hard to resonate with characters of Asian descent who fit the stereotypical identity that everyone makes assumptions about. That wasn't who I was, nor did I want to be. Hollywood has created a narrative around Asians and Asian-Americans to fit a typecast for films and television shows but I for one believe Sandra Oh has defied that logic. She's brilliant and has proven viewers everywhere the hardworking, versatile actress she can be. From the principal in "Princess Diaries" to a dedicated cardiothoracic surgeon on "Grey's Anatomy" to an M15 officer trying to find an assassin, the limit does not exist.

The lack of Asian descents taking home the famous statue has only been numbered down to two and let's be honest here, there needs to be a change. As much as the internet pushed for Leonardo DiCaprio to finally win that Oscar he deserved, we need to push for Sandra Oh to break the internet and give her the Emmy she deserves.

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