Being Alone Trumps Being Underappreciated Every Time

Being Alone Trumps Being Underappreciated Every Time

Know your worth and don't stick around if you're not getting out what you put in with your S/O.

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Let's be honest, no one really wants to be alone. I don't care if you're the biggest player out there or love feeling free, there are always going to be nights you wish you weren't going to bed alone. Or, you could be that person who loves attachment and craves attention from anyone who is willing to give it to you. Whatever type of person you are, there is no excuse imaginable that would make being in an unhealthy relationship okay.

If your significant other does not quite literally kiss the ground you walk on, when you would cross the ocean for them, they aren't worth a second more of your time. You deserve better than someone who is barely doing the bare minimum for you. You deserve the love you're giving and there's no reason to settle for less.

Knowing you deserve more and not doing anything about it might be the most disrespectful thing you could do to yourself. Later, you're only going to regret wasting so much time being unhappy when you could have been taking that time to become independently happy.

Deciding to walk away from someone who you invested so much time and effort into is never easy, everyone understands that, but no one understands why you're holding yourself back when you're aware of that fact. It's going to be hard at first, but in the end, you know you did the right thing. Don't think of leaving as giving up, but that you exhausted every effort you had. If you've gone above and beyond for someone and they won't reciprocate even the slightest, even after verbalizing your feelings, there's nothing more that you can do. It's not your fault that you have to leave.

It's truly unhealthy for you to stay in a relationship that you only give to, but never get anything from. A relationship takes two and there's no way to compromise that. If your S/O isn't willing to do what you would do for them, it's already an unequal relationship. If their actions don't match their words, don't trust that they're going to be there. You should be able to count on your S/O, not hope they pull through for you this time.

Don't be afraid to move on. There are good ones out there, I promise.

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To The Boy I Almost Fell In Love With, We Weren't Ready For Each Other

I don't think we were ready to be what we wanted to be for each other.

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Hey you,

Look who's showing affection now.

I know you've been wondering if I'd mention you. I didn't think I would, period. Not this soon, that's for sure.

I'll start by saying neither of us meant for each other to play even a little bit of a role in each other's lives. Not as meaningful as we did, at least.

But no matter how unsure I was, no matter how many times I wanted to block you and leave everything unsaid, I couldn't help fighting through it just to know you.

The time we spent together never felt like enough. And I can't even speak in past tense because you're still here sometimes. Like when I think of your smile and how every part of me craved and waited anxiously for it to make an appearance, especially if it was because of me.

I used to think of it more, back when I thought you'd realize you made a mistake. Back when I thought we'd pick up where we left off.

I knew when I met you I wanted to show you every side of me. But what caught me by surprise, just like most things about you did, is that every time a layer of mine shed, yours did as well.

There are pieces of me, naked and raw. Physically and emotionally, locked away in your brain that nobody else will ever see. At least not in the way you did.

The purpose you had in my life was slight, in the long run. But regardless, you had a purpose and I want you to know that. I forgive you. I hope you know that me, out of all people, knows we can't control ourselves sometimes. Sometimes, we fuck up. Most of the time, it makes no fucking sense. All of the time, we'll try to figure it out and never will.

I don't think I'm falling in love with you anymore.

I'm sorry for saying I've never felt that way before about anyone, that was a lie.

I'm also sorry for being 8 shots deep when I said it.

That morning, I wanted us to cross paths again. I didn't think for a second you'd ever make me an option. I kinda thought I was your exception, your "just this once" because that's what you were to me.

This morning, I'm not sure we serve a purpose in each others lives. Not yet at least. Or ever for that matter. I don't think we were ready to be what we wanted to be for each other. And because I don't wanna reach out to you personally, I want you to know that I can't wait to see both of our many dreams come true.

I'm thankful for all of the little trips we took, stories and giggles shared, secrets whispered, ideas we cultivated, heart palpitations, and everything in between.

I won't forget.

I also won't cowardly push it away, like you're doing.

I don't blame timing, the universe, karma or any of that bullshit for the way things turned out.

At least on my end, I knew when I met you it wasn't forever. I think at the end of the day we both knew we were going to be the inspiration we needed to keep moving forward. Maybe a little more inspiration than we bargained for.

And maybe a little more forward than we bargained for, too.

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To The Guy Who Told Me Not To Be Me, Nice Try

He will not silence me.

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He told me to never cut my hair short because it would make me look too masculine.

So, I sent him pictures of three different pixie cuts and asked him which one I should get.


He told me not to wear red lipstick because it made me look like a slut.

So, I bought every shade from blush rose to maroon.


He told me not to buy heels taller than one and a half inches tall because it's unattractive for a girl to be taller then the guy she is with.

My favorite shop was having a sell on a beautiful pair of three-inch stilettos. I bought them.


He told me that I was putting on a few extra pounds and that I shouldn't order dessert on our next dinner date.

Did he honestly think I would say no to the red velvet cake that our waitress offered?


He flirted with the waitress, saying that I should "look more like her."

I wrote down his number on our receipt before we left the restaurant.


He told me not to leave my "feminine products" on the counter because it's embarrassing.

When his friends came over for guys night, I organized my tampons and pads nicely on the bathroom shelf.


He told me that I couldn't talk to my best friend of 12 years because he was a guy.

I invited him to watch a movie with us at the local cinema the following week.


He told me not to order wine at the bar with him and his work friends because he didn't want me to seem "trashy."

I ordered jack and coke instead.


He told me not to be a feminist because it meant that I thought I was better than him.

My new "GIRL PWR" shirt is my favorite.


He told me to be silent.

He told me that I think too much and that I speak what I think too often.

He told me nobody cares about what I have to say.

He told me that the things I say don't matter.


So, I wrote a poem about him.

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