If you think that being single is hard enough to deal with the way it is, it only makes it much worse when you constantly find yourself on horrendous dates, having repulsively immature conversations, and having that ever-perplexing feeling of being completely, and utterly alone at night when you lay in bed.
After being single for four years, I was lucky enough to finally find the girl that has totally exceeded my hopes and dreams for my ideal woman, and completely rewarded my patience that I once thought was frivolous. Being single sucks. Dating sucks. Yeah, they can both be fun in their own light, but not if you constantly deal with the worst parts about dating. These need to stop.
Gentleman.
You need to stop expecting any sort of sexual fulfillment after you take a girl on a date. Especially if you have the audacity to think for a second that you deserve it because you paid for the night. I know it’s incredibly redundant to say this for the millionth time, but they are not an object in which you can use for your own sexual desires.
Hollywood has completely romanticized "the college life" for males since the late 90's with the American Pie series.
It's time we realize how senseless those movies are, and it's time to grow up.
A lot of guys have wanted to be the "Stiffler" of playing the field. I definitely won’t say I’m completely innocent either. However, you have to understand, that once you grow out of that phase, you will regret that phase with every ounce and shred of your consciousness, if you have even the slightest shred of a heart left.
I cannot express enough the cliche phrase of, "treat every girl that you come in contact with how you would want your future daughter to be treated by any male she comes in contact with."
Even if you think you don’t want kids, but you plan on finding a wife one day, good luck trying to keep that honesty aspect with the girl you consider to be “wifey material” when she asks you how many girls you’ve been with.
You’re either going to really stick to your “turning a new leaf” strategy, and tell her the truth; she will either tolerate your former lack-luster decisions, or she’s going to believe you’re telling her all the things she wants to hear in order to fulfill your American Pie goal.
You might do what you think is the logical thing, and just give her a lower number than you really have.
This will only end up backfiring on you, I promise.
If, and when she finds out, you will never be able to come up with a clever enough dictation to victimize yourself, in order to get her to feel sorry for your past habits. Just do the smart thing, and don’t play the field. It’s honestly not worth it; it's only going to hurt any chance you have with that future wife. And, you're going to hurt girls that deserved respect in the process.
Ladies.
Please, for chivalry's sake, don’t go out with a guy just for the simple pleasure of not having to pay for a meal or a night out. It’s honestly despicable, and you have no longer given yourself the credibility to complain that “chivalry is dead.” It's not dead. Actually, it's still quite alive. But, with the right guys, however, they're sick of you taking advantage of them.
I’m an old-fashioned type of guy. I will always instinctively want to pay for the entire meal out with my girlfriend. I will 100% ask her father for her hand in marriage when the time comes because that’s just the way I am.
If you take a guy up on his offer to go out, tell him straight up that you’re not interested in dating, rather than taking his interest in you for granted for food or for a free escape from your daily life. It’s not fair to him, and in the long run, you’re just aiding in the complete destruction of the image of traditional dating values.
At that rate, it’s going to be damn near impossible to restore the classic and old-fashioned expectations of dating that every girl cries out for on their social media when they’re single.
When you write that nice guy off as “too nice” in order to justify your attraction to the borderline sociopathic jerk with the nice jawline you’re hoping takes his interest away from his buddies and puts it on you one day, is only plunging the ideology of chivalry even further down the drain.
The nice guy is going to be the guy that you wish you had after the attractive jerks you go after repeatedly reinforce your best friend's recurring statement of: “all men are pigs.”
Don’t listen to her.
Well, you shouldn’t, and here's why: there are nice guys out there that will do all they can to make you forget the sleepless nights of unlocking your phone, only to be disappointed by seeing the background you selected to specifically evoke thoughts and feelings of happiness, a screen without any notifications from him protruding the picture. You’ll start to begin to resent that picture if you’ve had that happen to you enough.
