I am disappointed in today's women and the dating world they are in. Why you may ask? It is because women have been creating excuses for men that have cause the standards for dating to almost diminish.
In today's society dating and finding a significant other isn't easy in the so called "hook-up culture". In this culture, if dating even still exists, it isn't taken seriously anymore. Dating isn't the same thing these days like they used to. Dates are more about how how the date will end, either back at his or her place rather than the date itself. Dates have become more "Me first and then you second." Although, this is a new generation and things are changing, we shouldn't be a lazy generation looking for an excuse to get an easy way out when it comes to dating and treating it like it is not important.
My parents are old-fashioned when it comes to dating. They want the guy to come to pick me up at my house, meet them, take me out for a meal and pay for it, and take me back home at a reasonable hour. These small actions show that the guy will put in the effort to be with you, care about you, and actually wants to go on this date with you. But we have changed these small actions that show so much about someone's feelings towards another person into the most uncaring actions by being lazy. Today, many people commute separately to meet at the place the date is happening, making the guy pay is now looking frowned upon, meeting the parents doesn't happen until the relationship becomes really serious, and 2 in the morning is the new reasonable hour.
You may be thinking that these things don't matter and haven't mattered for 20 years. So what if he doesn't do the old fashioned way.
We both have cars to get to the same place. It isn't like it is a big deal if I drive anyways. Also, I live on the other side of town from him so I don't want to make an inconvenient for him to drive all that way. If he isn't willing to drive by picking you up, and then dropping you off after, then he isn't willing to devote the rest of his life with you. You are worth more than a 45-minute drive. Also, if he has to drive far, you can always throw in a couple bucks for gas. But still make him drive.
So what if we split the tab or I pay for the whole bill on the first date? Going out to eat isn't cheap and can get very expensive. If you paid for the whole bill, there may not be a second date. Your date may have just wanted a free meal and this was a way to get one. Hopefully, that never happens to you. But, although going out to eat can be expensive these days, he can AT LEAST can pay for the first meal. If there are more dates to come, you can alternate who pays for the bill or you can even split it.
So he is just nervous about meeting the parents and keeps blowing it off... Or he doesn't want this relationship to get that serious and meeting the parents is too serious for him. He wasn't and isn't planning on being with you for the long run if he isn't willing to meet the parents.
