Every time I get on Instagram, I always see the “perfect couple” or “relationship goals.” Watching Netflix or any television show like "Grey’s Anatomy," "One Tree Hill," or "Gossip Girl," makes me fall in love with couples. We all want our own Derek Sheppard or Chuck Bass, but what we fail to notice is that the relationships are not picture perfect. We want a guy that will treat us like the princesses we are, and that is okay.
The “one” is out there for us, maybe we haven’t met the guy yet but he is out there somewhere, hopefully getting his degree. I’m sure if I ask you what you look for in a guy, you will spill out a whole list of things. We want a guy to be perfect for us and at least check off most of the things on our list of what we want. You will find the perfect guy! But here is the catch, he might not be what you expect. I am not saying to lower your expectations but to keep an open mind. You should definitely have high expectations when it comes to being treated right and feeling like a princess, but there is a fine line of where you should have high expectations and where you shouldn’t. For example, I know some girls that have high expectations on a guy’s height and ability to be romantic. They cannot help how tall they are nor how romantic they are. Some guys are really bad when it comes to being creative with dates. They do not get the whole Pinterest thing. As long as someone treats you right and makes you happy; I believe that is enough. Have high expectations but make them reasonable.
In middle school when we got dumped after a week of dating or our first love being someone completely different than we thought, some time or another we have all been heartbroken. Being heartbroken from someone is something that is very hard to recover from, especially if you let this person revolve around your life. When I think of breakups, I think of some person crying on the couch with a tub of ice cream while watching chick flicks. That is an actual representation of how I feel. When we fall hard for a guy and get our feelings hurt, it is hard to imagine that there is someone out there that won’t do that to us. Never give up and do not have a plan on how to fall in love. There is a reason that that person is not in your life; it is because you have to make more room for the one person who will be the one for you.
You deserve the best and do not take any less. Every person deserves to be treated with the uptmost respect and to be happy with someone that gives them butterflies. I believe that having high expectations will make you truly happy in the long run. Settling for less is not something logical to do. You will have your Derek Sheppard or Chuck Bass one day, don’t give up.
