Do you put the "hot" in psychotic? Are you a total bo$$ in your professional or academic life and a total slob in your personal life? Did you spend Valentine's Day eating heart-shaped pizza and drinking wine...alone?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, I just wanted to say one things: you're doing just fine, and don't let anybody tell you otherwise. There's nothing wrong with stumbling through life solo in your early twenties and it's absolutely nothing to feel bad about (and I'd also like to add, it's totally cool to be stumbling through life by yourself in your thirties, too).

You may constantly be bombarded with Instagram posts of happy couples and you may step back and wonder, "what am I doing so wrong?" But I'm here to tell you, it's a good thing.

Never sell out or dull your shine because you're afraid of being alone. The wrong people may think you are too much--too big, too loud, too opinionated, too emotional. But, to the right person you are just right. Stop searching for your other half--because you are not a half. You're a whole person with goals, and dreams and sh*t to say. If you seek validation in another person, you will never find it. Stop blaming yourself because others don't have hands big enough to handle you with.

Take this time to focus on you and your evolution as a person. I know it's easier said than done but set little goals for yourself. Focus on your career. Go to the gym. Eat berries for breakfast. Stay out until morning with your best friends. Dance. Drink plenty of water. Make memories. Eat ice cream out of the carton. Look at the stars. Scream at the top of your lungs. Forget your phone on purpose and be present in the moment. Buy a plane ticket. Go see what the world has to offer. If you can't afford that, spend the day at a local park. Remember that there's more to life than what people do all day.

Forgive the people who have hurt you. If you want to be friends with your ex, do it. But understand what consequences may come of it. Never feel ashamed for the choices that you make and don't let others make you feel ashamed.

Don't let the people from your past keep you down. I know it can be easy to look at love as something unattainable--like the juiciest pear at the top of the tree and you just. can't. reach. it.

Don't become cynical. It's okay to put your guard up but don't build walls so high that nobody can climb them.

Don't do to others what others have done to you. Be kind. Believe in love, write poems, write love letters to yourself. Tell the people you love that you love them, because people have become stingy with the word "love." Just because you are single doesn't mean you don't love or that you are unable of loving or are unlovable.

I know it can be easy to become desensitized to the idea of love, having come to age in the time of left and right swipe; and being able to order up another human-being the same way you order Chinese take-outs on apps like Tinder, but don't.

Love is very much alive, and it's ours to re-invent. So, fall in love with places, things, people. Fall in love with being alive.

But most importantly,fall in love with yourself.