Why is it hard to find real people?
People come and go very easy these days it seems.
More and more people only contact me when they need something, or want to talk about themselves.
Listening is great, but it's nice to talk about your own problems too.
They come to you and blabber on about their life and repeat things you already know about.
It’s hard to sit back and listen when no one listens to you back.
They smile to your face and act like you're friends, then when you need them most,
They vanish into thin air.
Disappearing when you are the one that needs help this time.
This kind of friendship is so unhealthy because you lose more than you gain.
The worst part is it’s almost impossible to detect these kinds of people until you are in the moment experiencing pure painstaking loss in a person.
They live to stir the pot and create drama.
Sometimes they just involve you in drama you aren't even a part of.
Girls can even involve you in drama even related to boys, they can get jealous of you and some of them befriend you for the purpose of keeping you away from a guy they have already claimed.
Sure this may seem like a smart tactic but very fake and selfish.
Rarely does a good strong friendship come from something like that.
They are so self-absorbed that they continue to come to you for their problems day in and day out, and completely fail to realize that they don't even know how your life is going, your stress levels, and just add onto your stress.
Everyone is always competing against one another, especially when it comes down to your peers.
We all want to succeed and go somewhere in life.
We are looking for careers, education, a future.
Considering this though, we must find a healthy balance of communication with one another. Everyone wants to be listened to, but people forget to listen.
I personally love to listen to other peoples problems and help them.
But I often forget to talk about my own experiences.
You need to find friends that are talkers and listeners.
Everyone you talk to in your life has a purpose and role.
I am friends with different kinds of people with different personalities and I love that we are different because we gain things from each other that the others lack.
If you're more quiet you gain the strength and ability to be outgoing.
If you are wild and loud, you find people that keep you grounded at times and tell you when to chill.
It is important to be honest with your friends, and build that trust right away.
Also, if you aren't sincere don't expect others to be sincere back.
You must practice what you preach.
Run, I repeat run, from insincere friends.
Don’t be around people that bring you down.
You need to be able to trust your friends, feel safe around them, and be able to rely on them.
This is even more important in a college environment.
We are all going through the same school and have similar stresses.
There is no reason to be ignorant and pretend to care about someone, especially if you don’t.
Pretending to care is worse that actually not caring.
At the end of the day, you are in control of who you surround yourself with, even if you think you cannot.
Stand up and find people that bring out the best in you and your life.
Find people that you gain more from than you lose in their presence.
