I'm Not Changing And Neither Should You
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I'm Not Changing And Neither Should You

Breaking free from our image-crazed culture by embracing our differences.

I'm Not Changing And Neither Should You

We live in a culture that's obsessed with change. The top song on iTunes changes faster than I do when I'm late for my first class. The press can go from loving a celebrity to criticizing their every move overnight. Every advertisement that we see is trying to lure us into using a product that will totally change our lives for the better: "Try this weight loss routine and you'll have the body you've always dreamed of!" "Use this cologne and all the ladies will love you!" "Use this brand of makeup so that all the guys will want to date you and all the girls will want to be you!"

The media does a great job of making us feel like we always need something bigger and better in order to measure up, and most of the time we believe it, even if we don't realize it. We work out until we're blue in the face, bathe in cologne, and paint on layer after layer of makeup in the hopes that this is the means to discovering our true self, our happiest self, our best self. If we were honest, though, living this way leaves us feeling burnt out and empty, not beautiful and exciting, doesn't it?

Social media is another culprit that makes us feel insecure and inadequate. Imagine this scenario: you've been amped up for weeks about your spring break plans. You're spending the whole week on the beach in Florida with your best friend, soaking up every drop of sun possible and diving into that new novel that you've been itching to read. The break finally arrives, and you feel like you have it made. Nothing could ruin this trip, and quite frankly, you're too relaxed to care. You decide to grab your phone to scroll through Instagram, and that's when you see it: a girl from school that you follow is at the beach, too…in the Bahamas…with the perfect tan…and expensive Ray-Ban sunglasses…and five of her friends who are equally as tan, sporting equally-as-impressive sunglasses. Your mood plummets as you begin to think, "I could never afford those sunglasses or a trip out of the country, and my tan couldn't possibly look that good. And why didn't I ask a bunch more of my friends to come with me?" Before you know it, you've over-thought yourself into a funk that looms over you for the rest of the trip.

This need for change even seeps into our friendships. At times, our well-meaning friends urge us to change things about ourselves to better suit their own tastes and interests. Maybe they tell you to cut back on playing video games because it makes you seem nerdy. What they don't know is that it's one of the most fun ways that you and your friends bond, and some of your best heartfelt talks have happened at a game night. Maybe they suggest that you grow your hair out again because long hair looks better on you. What they don't know is that your mom was just diagnosed with cancer, so you donated your hair to Locks of Love in her honor. Oftentimes, the surface-level opinions that we form of others don't begin to scratch the surface of what's going on underneath.

No matter the source, here are some things to keep in mind when you feel like you need to change who you are in order to be happy:

1. What you see isn't usually what you get.

Almost everything in the media is airbrushed. That model that you see in the magazine? She's been nipped, tucked and glossed over by airbrushing software so much that she probably wouldn't recognize herself if you showed her that picture. That picture-perfect love scene in Nicholas Sparks's latest movie that's everything that you want in a relationship? It was probably shot numerous times because the actors didn't do it exactly the way that it was in the script. No one is perfect, not even the most glamorous celebrities.

2. It's called a "filter" for a reason.

You've probably heard the saying "All that glitters is not gold," and that's especially true of social media. Our Instagram pictures, Facebook statuses and tweets are a highlight reel of our lives that show only our best and brightest moments. On Instagram, we agonize over picking just the right filter, which does exactly what its name implies: it takes a real, raw moment and filters it through the lens of what we want people to see that puts us in the best possible light. On Facebook, we re-word our statuses time and time again until we're sure that they will get plenty of likes and even a few shares, if we're lucky. On Twitter, we squeeze our experiences into 140 characters or less, watering down the beauty of a moment for the sake of a retweet. Don't compare your everyday moments to someone else's mountaintop experiences and think that your daily life isn't worth celebrating. One day, we'll be able to look back and realize that lots of our ordinary moments aren't ordinary after all, if we would only learn to appreciate them.

3. Celebrate your differences.

The more people you meet, the more you'll begin to notice just how different we all are, and that's actually a really good thing. We all have things in common with our friends, of course, but none of us are going to be cookie-cutter versions of each other. That would be pretty boring, wouldn't it? When you start comparing your life to others' lives, it robs you of your joy and chips away at the beauty of who you were created to be. You'll never be able to use and appreciate your own gifts if you're constantly wishing for someone else's. You can admire what someone else has while still finding value in what you have. Someone else's success doesn't mean that you've failed.

I know that I was put on this earth for a unique purpose that only I can fulfill, and I was given a circle of people that only I can influence, so I'm not changing who I am, and neither should you. Let's stop worshiping at the altar of image and embrace the freedom that we have to be ourselves, flaws and all.

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