How to Get Over Your Scarring Past Experiences

How to Get Over Your Scarring Past Experiences

Letting Go of Negative Emotions

We all have day-to-day worries that get us down and make us feel sorry for ourselves — stressful situations and strained relationships can make us upset in the moment.

Buried beneath these present-day emotions, however, may be something deeper.

Traumatic memories related to past accidents, illness or unpleasant interactions with others may seem inconsequential when you’re dealing with problems in the present day. But these scars often go unhealed and can stick with you for years after they’re over.

Hidden Emotional Damage

You may have some particularly scarring memories from when you were younger that come up again every once in a while — when a bee buzzes by me, for example, it conjures up memories of stumbling into a nest and ended up in the hospital.

Trauma sticks with us because it is relevant information for our brains to store. The memories return to guide our behavior and help us to avoid similar trauma in the future.

So you may think you’re over that time you got out of control on roller skates and crashed and broke your wrist, but chances are you still have some scars left over from that event.

Scars can also result from being upset by Diagnosis Trauma. Patients experience this when they receive a negative medical diagnosis and internalize their fear or stress.

Suppressing feelings of fear or shock does not make them disappear. It merely buries them, only to be dug up and dealt with later, often multiple times throughout one’s life.

In order to deal with your scars and ultimately get over them, you have to seek treatment or begin to treat yourself.

Letting Go of Negative Emotions

When life gets overwhelming, it can be easy to become consumed by negativity.

Everyone copes with stress differently, and it may take time before you are able to find a method that works best for you. Try some of the following activities and see how they make you feel:

Exercise your creativity, however you prefer to do so. You could paint, dance, read, draw, sculpt, play music, whatever is fun for you.

Exercise, whether it be running, lifting weights or playing a sport. Exercise releases endorphins, improves your stamina and health, and will relieve stress.

Write lists, keep a journal, respond to a thought-provoking article you read — the beauty of writing is that you can write literally anything you want. You don’t have to necessarily write well or share what you’ve written, but exploring your thoughts and emotions is a good way to cope with trauma.

Take a staycation, staying close to home the next time you have days off. It can be stressful to travel, especially due to expenses like airfare and rentals. Not only will you save money by staying near home, but you can really enhance your perception of things you may have taken for granted in the past. Take a trip to that nearby park you’ve never visited, or eat out at that fancy local restaurant. You’ll learn to relax in your own environment.

Wear your favorite outfit. Really, try it. It’s amazing how much of a mental boost we get from looking good and feeling comfortable.

Knock out some of your to-do list. Accomplishing something — anything — can make you feel better. Whether it’s one big project or several smaller ones, it will feel good to finally cross some items off your list.

Learn something new. If there is a topic you’re interested in or a skill you want to work on, do a quick search for information or tutorials and teach yourself! Taking a class and learning with other people can be fun, too.

Experience beauty, whether it be on a nature walk, at an art museum, or listening to music in your own home. It can be a spiritual experience, and nature especially is proven to have a relaxing effect on us.

Meditate. Stretching, deep breathing, and focus are all ways to put stressful thoughts out of our minds. There are guided meditation tutorials online, or you can try yoga.

Play with a pet or small children in your family. People with therapy animals have them for a reason — cuddling with something cute and soft can be calming.

These are only a few methods of dealing with overwhelming emotion. You may find that none of them work for you, and that’s okay! Keep brainstorming and trying new things until you are able to find what calms you.

Always keep in mind that when you are really struggling with emotional damage or trauma, you can reach out to a psychological professional for help.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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