How Do Broken Hearts Get Strong?
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How Do Broken Hearts Get Strong?

Five Ways to Stitch the Wound

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How Do Broken Hearts Get Strong?
Daniel Brennan

If your heart has been torn into pieces, here is the stone-cold truth: you are going to get through it. I know that your heart is not going to allow you to listen to me because the wounds have not yet healed. But I am going to tell you over and over again that you will look back on this situation and tell yourself, "Thank God I didn't get what I thought that I deserved" (you can thank Carrie Underwood for that one).

I know and 100 percent agree that having someone you trust the most just leave unexpectedly, or telling you that they just don't love you anymore, sucks. Either they don't care about helping you put yourself back together, or they believe that what they are doing what is "best for you". When we all know that this is bologna.

Here are five of the best ways to heal your broken heart because watching romantic-comedies and/or listening to the Broken-Hearted playlist on Spotify isn't going to do the trick:

1. Not Bottling All Of Your Emotions Inside

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WARNING: THIS IS GOING TO BE YOU IF YOU CONSUME ALL OF YOUR EMOTIONS INSIDE OF YOU. You must not allow yourself to bottle everything up, because at some point you are going to explode. And trust me, it is not fun. Call up a friend, or write down your feelings as they are going through your head. You need to let everything out; don't keep it all inside.

2. Fresh Air

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Make sure that you don't lock yourself up in your room. I know sitting on your bed with a pint of Ben & Jerry's while watching 500 Days of Summer sounds like it will help you. Nope. So make sure you get some Vitamin D, exercise, or go shopping (even though we all know that retail therapy is legit).

3. Focusing On Yourself

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Try something new, like take Rosetta Stone classes or learn how to play the guitar. You need to find something that will make you forget about "them". Make sure to leave cheesy Post-It Notes around your room that make you feel better. Because this is about YOU not THEM, and don't even try the YOU with THEM.

4. The #1 Suicide Squad: Family & Friends

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Your family and friends are here for you. This is what they have prepared for (hopefully). They are only a phone/Skype call away. Do not convince yourself that you can deal with this on your own or think you are bothering people with your problems. There is a reason that they are your number one support group. They are ready to listen to you and make you smile again!

5. Time

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The first month is going to be the hardest, but trust me, it gets easier and time moves on. As time moves on, you will learn to move on. Don't waste any of this time contemplating what you did wrong because most likely, "they" aren't wasting theirs.


Stay true to yourself, and don't change who you are in hopes of fixing your broken heart. I promise, it will piece back together in the least likely of ways.

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