Going through heartbreaks just suck. When you find out the person you once cared for is just not that into you, you can feel like poo. When you ask for advice, normally people tell you to just get over it. Like many of other things, it’s easier said than done.
Realize you aren’t the problem. Cry it out, by all means. Keeping your emotions bottled in is only going to make matters worse. Oddly enough, things happen for a reason. For all you know, the universe made this happen because it felt as though this person wasn’t the person for you. And who knows. Maybe in the future this person might find its way back into your life. Whatever is meant to happened shall happen. Try not to beat yourself up about it. You’ve got this!
One way to get this person off of your mind is to find things to occupy your time. If need be, bury yourself in home work. Pick up a new hobby! Engaging into something new takes a lot of focus and discipline. Hike a mountain or hang out with your friends. For me, being around my friends is the best way to ebb my attention from someone or to cope with heartbreak. Your friends are one of you best support systems out there.
On a more spiritual level, pray for your heartbreaker. Pray that in this time of separation no harm comes in their way. Pray that they learn from their mistakes and that the same doesn’t happen to anyone else. Another thing to do is forgive. Holding grudges aren’t healthy. Wasting your energy hating or disliking someone isn’t going to magically make them a better person. I’ve always been told, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. Accept them for who they are, even if it hurts. They’ll change on their own or whenever they’re ready. This may take time to do, but whenever you’re ready to forgive this person will let you know if you’re ready to move on or not.
Overcoming heartbreak is a great feeling. Realize that you are an amazing person. Find some time for you and allow self-reflection. Your personality is resilient and your goals are beyond par. Appreciate this heartbreak as a lesson learned for yourself and the next significant other that comes around
