Have you ever just looked into the mirror and pointed out all of your major flaws? Then later googled how to fix these flaws with home remedies? It is a hard thing to go through in life. Especially with social media presenting pictures of women with lovely curves and beautiful faces, and men with amazing amount of muscles and very buff.
It seems to hard to compete with these flawless standards. I went around my college and asked a few students to point out their flaws and tell me how they developed. Next would ask them to tell me something they love about themselves.
Of the young women I have interviewed, the majority felt insecure about their facial features, body weight, and the size of their behind. Many had written that they did not like the size or shape of their noses and/or lips. They either wanted smaller noses or bigger/fuller lips. When it came to body weight, the females wanted to lose a few more pounds to gain a more curvier shape.
It seems curves are now the in season for this generation. Sadly, not many of us are born with these hourglass figures and bodacious behinds. Unsurprisingly, females struggle to maintain this image.
Young men that I have interviewed said they felt more insecure about their weight. Today the male generation has to compete with what female generation sees on the television, such as "Magic Mike" and "50 Shades of Grey". They feel pressured to have toned muscled bodies to be seen without a shirt off.
Many males in my college admitted to feeling so uncomfortable taking of their shirt because they were either overweight, had no tone to their muscles, or felt they were too skinny. Some have even admitted to me that they are so intimated with their girlfriends they won't even take off their shirts because of this insecurity.
Personally, I understand the reason for so many insecurities. Growing up with zits from the fifth grade 'til now, being horribly thin, and having extremely thin hair still makes me feel like I could be better. Even when being complimented, there is a deep doubt that I'm attractive at all. However, what I have learned is that confidence can make a difference.
Confidence is the most beautiful thing a person can carry. Even if you don't believe it, telling yourself you are worthy and beautiful can go a long way.
After the survey takers were done telling me about their insecurities, I asked them to tell me something they love about themselves. Many of the females said they loved their eyes. In Psychology Daily, a survey showed that men mostly fall in love with women's eyes. "When people communicate you look straight into their eyes and no where else," (Dr. Rosorio, Psych Daily). Men seem to love their facial hair or hair, which they described as luxurious, stylish, short and easy to maintain.
In the end, we should all be proud of what we have and gained over the years. Be confident of who you are and what you look like. Today's portrayal of beauty is nothing more than impossible standards that do not reflect the real beauty of us.
I guess I am here to say you should already know you're beautiful. Just because a few might not see your beauty doesn't mean that many others do not.
