I'm sure we've all seen the classic movie He's Just Not That Into You, and if you haven't, I recommend you do. Yes, it is sometimes hard to tell if a guy is into you. When talking to a guy, we ask ourselves the same questions: Is he just being nice or is he flirting? Does he really think I'm pretty or is he just saying that to get lucky? What if he has a girlfriend? Is he going to make the first move or should I?
Don't take anything over the top. Each guy is different. Just have a casual conversation and see where it leads to. I love this movie because it portrays real situations each girl and guy can find themselves in.
"We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk, that means he likes you."
When we were little, we cried to our mothers about how a boy was mean to us on the playground. She told us it meant he liked us. Boys liked to be aggressive at a young age and they didn't know how to express their feelings to a girl properly. As girls, hearing something like that sticks in our minds and we think it's the truth for the rest of our lives. It might have been true when we were little, but not anymore. Now if a guy is mean to you, it's probably because he wants you to leave him alone and he's trying to get his point across.
"If a guy doesn't call you, he doesn't want to call you."
If you gave him your number two days ago and he still hasn't called, he's not busy. He's just not interested. Don't go back and forth wondering if you should be the one to call or text him first. That won't make matters better. That is one of the most common mistakes we make and we need to realize that. Move on to meeting another guy and don't waste your time on someone who isn't willing to give you theirs. If he's interested in getting to know you better, he'll call the next day.
"If a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what."
If a guy truly wants to be with you, he won't make any kind of ridiculous excuses. He will find the time in his busy schedule to see you, even if it's for 10 minutes. If the guy you're currently dating isn't looking forward to seeing you when you make plans or won't make an effort to call you during the day like he used to, he's not the one. You shouldn't be crossing oceans for someone who won't jump over puddles for you.
"If I want to make myself attractive to the opposite sex, I don't go get a new haircut, I update my profile."
If you're trying to get the same guy's attention and it's not working, then again, he's not interested. Changing your hairstyle or hair color won't make him fall for you. A guy will make it clear he's not interested in you or that you're not his type. If you want to seem more appealing to a guy, just like the quote says, update your profile. Eventually you'll find a guy with the same desires and interests as you. The dating process just takes time - don't rush it.
"I have to stop thinking that every guy will change..."
One of the main problems girls have is thinking all guys are the same. If we think that all the time, we'll never find "the one." One thing I learned is guys will not change who he is for you and you shouldn't have to change for him. If he's a nice guy but doesn't have everything you're looking for, then talk to him about it. Don't be the girl who breaks his heart and ruin him for the next girl.
