“Learning to love yourself is one of the biggest challenges you will ever face, and the work is never finished.” –Gala Darling Radical Self-Love

Something that breaks my heart is people who don’t know how to love themselves.In society today everyone is always striving for perfection, the littlest flaw can screw up his or her whole day.And to look around to see those who I love the most struggling to see how great they actually are is heartbreaking.I simply don’t understand why people think it’s alright to tear each other down.

It took me awhile to even fathom the fact that loving myself was possible.I always thought:

“How could other people be so happy with themselves? There’s so much that I could improve.”

Learning how to love myself was a hard long process, and I am nowhere near finished.I’ve picked up self-help book after self-help book looking for answers.I’ve always thought that once I’d accomplished one goal to get to the most “perfect” me that there is something else that could change about myself.

It wasn’t until recently that I finally realized that this was as good as it was most likely going to get and I just needed to accept that.Now I know that that sounds really harsh and you’re probably questioning why in the world I would say something like that, but it’s true.I realized that I am perfect right where I am.Things might get better, I might lose that weight I’ve been wanting to loose for the past three years, I might finally learn how to actually put on makeup so I feel better about my looks, but in reality was I going to accomplish those things? Probably not. I’m too content with how I am as a person to really actually want to change.

Yes, there are so many things that I wish I had the motivation to do, but when I actually stop to really think about it I then realize that I’m not going to do it, that’s just not who I really am.And I like how I really am right now.Sure down the road maybe I’ll change something, but right now I love me for me.

I love the fact that whenever I actually put on makeup it's for some important event like a wedding, No I do not have a daily “getting ready” routine and I’m perfectly alright with that.I love the fact that my form of a diet is eating super healthy one day and then the next eating so much food that’s bad for me I feel like I might explode.

Everything flaw that I have, I love it. It's what makes me and what makes me stand out. So yes, some of these words are harsh, but that’s the harsh reality of life. You need to learn your love yourself.It’s hard, and some days you just want to give up. I promise though, when you show yourself a little bit of love, life will surprise you with how great it can be. And if you’re anything like me and need to read a couple self-help books, check out Radical Self Love By Gala Darling. Simply. Amazing.