Why We Need To Stop Event Dieting

Why We Need To Stop Event Dieting

Cut the crap, not the calories

I guarantee not one person reading this can say they have never heard someone mention a “summer diet,” or “spring break diet,” or “weight loss for a wedding,” etc. I also can’t speak for all of you, but I know that everyone I have personally ever witnessed that has tried one or multiple of the diet shenanigans has never actually kept the weight off afterwards. What I don't understand is why someone would lose sleep to go to the gym for hours and starve themselves only to eat it all back during their vacation or event. This is how our lives become a constant cycle. Each season brings new occasions that people think they have to lose weight before attending and I’m flat out done hearing it. It is for one thing, completely unhealthy and for another, not how society should be looking forward to events. Why should we punish ourselves in order to be able to have fun on special occasions? The whole point of having something to look forward to is to actually be able to look forward to it, not torture ourselves only for the results to be reversed in the near future. These mini diets wouldn’t be as difficult if instead of convincing ourselves we have to be healthy for this and that, we told ourselves we needed to change our lifestyle as a whole in terms of health. A yo-yo diet never works and neither do crash diets. What works in terms of health and happiness is developing a lifestyle where we allow ourselves to indulge but also nourish our bodies with the foods they need. We can’t continue preparing for a week or even a night of anticipated overeating by undereating weeks before. Our bodies were not made for these games and our minds certainly weren’t either.

Times like these can severely ruin our relationships with food as we begin to tell ourselves what foods are “good” and “bad” and can permanently label foods for the future. Intuitive eating is so important in the sense that we eat when we are hungry and stop when we are full as well as satisfy our cravings. By going on bouts of dieting, we increase the possibility of binge eating and thus, creating a cycle. It’s easy to look around us at others who also fall victim to these event diets and compare our diets to theirs, creating an even more unhealthy competition as to who can “eat less” or “exercise more”.

More importantly, our bodies should not be something that we focus on when it comes to a special occasion. Why do we need to look a certain way for spring break or a wedding? The people we enjoy our time with loved us before we decided to lose X number of pounds before said event and will love us no matter what size we are. I never understood the point of trying to fit into a “goal” size dress for a wedding when the person they are marrying loves them already. I understand if someone is physically unhealthy or mentally unhappy in a non-disordered way. But most of the time when people diet for an occasion, it is because of how society makes event diets such a prominent thing and because they feel that in order to “look good” in a certain outfit or bathing suit, they need to drop pounds. We already associate so many things that we do with how we look; why bring in even the most exciting time? We are so quick to blame our bodies for everything when really half the time it's in our heads. Losing weight is not going to change anything about the trip or occasion, and I can promise you that. I’ve been at both extremely high weights and unhealthily low weights, and I can honestly say I’ve had more fun and enjoyed life more when my body wasn't the center focus and I didn’t diet to get to the way I looked at that moment.

Summer bod, keep the winter fat off, wedding diets… they haunt our screens. How can we ignore the unrealistic nonsense they try and tell us? We look in the mirror and remind ourselves that two months ago, our bodies looked different. Two months from now our bodies will look different. Every few months our bodies change and we can’t do anything about it. Instead of going against nature and what our bodies need, we force ourselves to get into this mindset that if we hardcore diet for a month then our time at these events will be better spent. That isn't true at all and god knows we probably will beat ourselves up EVEN more for indulging than if we never dieted in the first place. Life isn't a matter of eat whatever, diet, eat whatever, and then try and lost the weight. Life is about giving your own personal body what it needs and loving it for what it is and not for what you want others to think of it at certain times. Cut the crap, not the calories.

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

Suicidal thoughts are thought of in such black-and-white terms. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is there are some stuck in the gray area of those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead. You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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