Chivalry is not dead. I have seen so many gentlemen in my life, that I am honestly surprised how many girls think that all men are jerks. I love having my door opened for me, or having my things carried around, or wearing an oversized jacket so that I am not cold. My boyfriend has done these things for me even before we started dating. Although these things are nice, and they go a long way, being chivalrous is not the same as paying for everything.

It's a simple rule really. If you ask someone on a date, you pay for it. When my boyfriend and I are sitting around and get hungry and I say lets go get food, I don't expect him to pull out his wallet. I cannot tell you how many times my boyfriend has been critized for this. He is constantly being told that he needs to take care of me, and that I shouldn't ever pay. We get weird looks from people at the movies, or restaurant, or store when I pull out my card, instead of the other way around.

I am not going to say that this is going to work for every relationship, but it works for mine. I hate it when my boyfriend spends too much money on gifts, or he surprises me by paying for my gas. I don't really hate the getting free gas part, but I don't want to make him feel like he has to do those things. When he does them they should be because he wants to surprise me, or because he wants to. I know that he loves me, regardless of the amount of money he spends or the amount of things that I get.

I have heard so many girls say that they deserve to be treated like a princess. This is 100 percent true, but it also goes the other way. Your boyfriend deserves to be treated like a prince. I love spoiling my boyfriend, just as much as I love being spoiled. When I hear girls talk about how they won't pay for something, or that they want their boyfriend to show up at their door with makeup and tons of food, I don't get it. Why would they do those things if they don't have the money, or if they are reasonable with their money and put it towards something for the future. I am just as happy when my boyfriend shows up with an ice cream, or a fun size candy bar. And truthfully, I'm excited to see him regardless of what he has with him.

And I am not saying that the money spent is going to be equal. I am a poor college student, whereas my boyfriend has a great job, great credit and is a student. Most of the time as I go to pull out my money he slides his card before I can stop him. One of our favorite shows was "How I Met Your Mother." I highly recommend this show to anyone who enjoys laughing, but the point of mentioning the show was that in one episode there is a rule. That a girl should reach for the check, and if the girl doesn't , it is a bad sign, and vice versa. I loved this!

Girls: stop expecting to have everything paid for you. You are an independent, beautiful, individual who doesn't need a guy to take care of you. And guys: spoil her. Tell her you love her everyday, do the little things and respect her. It really doesn't matter who pays for the date, as long as there are good times, respect and a little bit of kissing.