When I was a little girl, I watched nothing but Disney princess movies, hoping that I would randomly bump into a "prince" one day and then get married and live happily ever after.

I then began to realize that the movies I watched were strictly fictional as I got older. I even admired Meghan Markle, for example. She is married to a real-life PRINCE. But I had to be more realistic and remind myself that not everyone is going to marry a prince, and not everyone is going to have a perfect relationship.

You see, Meghan may be living the royal life like I always wanted to live, but there are strict rules when it becomes to being a princess. For instance, you have to sit a certain way, wear a certain nail color, and have proper etiquette. From the outside, we see that Meghan is living life when we truly don't know anything about what's going on in her relationship. What if I actually marry a prince and realize that the marriage didn't turn out to be what I pictured?

And it's not just about Meghan Markle that I am talking about. I am referring to couples I see on social media who seem to have the "perfect relationship." But what would you define as "perfect?" Because that isn't a real thing. The point that I am trying to make is that we should stop spending our time on social media and loathing on the idea of "relationship goals." What exact goal are you trying to reach? We can't just assume that every couple that we see on the Internet has the perfect relationship, even though they claim so.

Most couples on social media only post the good times and happy vibes.

Those couples who are always smiling in their pictures, eating Chipotle together, going on trips together, wearing matching outfits, nonstop PDA and Flipagram videos that flood your timeline should not be a goal you want to pursue. You start thinking, "why can't me and my boyfriend be like that?" If your goal is making a Flipagram video with your significant other, that's not a good idea of what a relationship is like. Happiness and communication is a sign of a growing relationship, as well as respect and trust. What we really need to talk about is what is going on behind closed doors.

In a NORMAL relationship, there are going to be fights, disagreements, and struggles that we need to acknowledge. I get it, all you see on social media are happy and smiling couples with no care in the world. But it's obvious that these couples aren't going to post the fights and pain. (Also, please don't be one of those people who puts their relationship drama on the internet unless you want a reaction.) Why would someone post about an argument they had with their significant other? Then you wouldn't label that couple as relationship goals. I hate to break it to you, but that is what's going to happen in a relationship. Every person is going to have their flaws. Communicating, committing, and trusting isn't easy.

Another thing to note is some couples are experiencing abuse and domestic violence, but they aren't going to show you that.

I knew so many couples who posted nothing but PDA and talked about how they were going to marry each other and wore matching clothes, until one day, they would post pictures of their abuse from their significant other and how everything is not how it seems. It was heartbreaking because followers, including me, would say that their relationship was "goals," but then realize that we were wrong after seeing the abuse.

We shouldn't compare our relationships to others because we don't know what exactly happens behind closed doors. It is okay to argue and have disagreements in a relationship because that shows that you have to learn how to compromise. If you are in a relationship with no disagreements, it is going to raise eyebrows because that shows you don't really know much about each other. It may be impossible to have a "perfect" relationship, but it is definitely possible to have a great and working relationship as long as you listen to one another. It's always nice to go on nice trips, but always remember what the relationship is about.