It's no secret that breakups can be rough. Even the cleanest of breaks can weigh down on the strongest of hearts. Unfortunately, most breakups mean a variety of different things you've gotten used to are going to end up changing. You have to create a new normal for yourself.
Suddenly, this person you spent every possible moment with is no longer by your side; no longer your person.
As if a breakup alone wasn't hard enough, you now have to transition into the single life. While you'll quickly realize being single isn't the worst thing to happen, it doesn't take away from feeling like something's missing; like there's suddenly a void you need to fill. You may even feel a sense of loneliness creeping into your life.
More often than not, when young girls get that sense of loneliness in their life after a breakup, they begin to panic and do one of two things. They either jump into a rebound relationship on a whim, or they obsess over finding their next partner instead of giving themselves time to heal.
Being on your own after a relationship may seem daunting, but it is also time for you to grow into yourself. Staying single is an opportunity for you to get to know yourself all over again, an opportunity to mend whatever might be broken on the inside. This is a time for you to learn how to love yourself for who you are.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make while you're young is trying to fall in love with someone else before you've even had the chance to fall back in love yourself. Taking time to yourself doesn't have to be selfish or scary. It can be beautiful.
So, before you jump from relationship to relationship, or worry yourself sick about being alone forever, I encourage you to take the time you need to heal, grow, and fall in love with yourself.