To The Girl Who Loves Deeply, Don't Let One Breakup Change That

To The Girl Who Loves Deeply, Don't Let One Breakup Change That

The ability to love so wholeheartedly is a beautiful thing.

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Let me explain to you what it's like to love deeply. We are different than everyone else. We pour love into everything and everyone and never stop. We pour out our love until we are empty and everyone else is full. When you love deeply, you don't know how to stop giving. It's impossible to stop because it's who we are. We always try to help others, no matter how much it hurts us. It's one of the most beautiful things about loving deeply, but it is also one of the most dangerous. For when you love deeply, you also hurt deeply.

Those who love deeply have a special fire within them. We use that fire to light up the darkness we see in others. Our fire spreads to people who need it, but only temporarily. These are the people who only say they love you, for they see your fire and recognize they do not have their own. These are the people who will take as much of your fire as possible, leaving you only with a few glowing embers to rebuild yourself with.

There is a vicious cycle we seem to fall into and cannot escape. We love, we give, we end up empty. Over and over again this happens, almost as if we do not recognize the pattern. We do. We recognize the pattern. We recognize it all too well, but we can't help it. You see, we give and give and give because we don't understand how others could do the opposite. It doesn't make sense that some people take and take and take without giving anything in return.

We get stuck loving people we shouldn't love because we think we need to help them. We feel like we have no choice but to fill them up. So, time after time, we fill them up, and then they leave. Then we hurt. We hurt so badly. We feel inadequate, not good enough to keep someone. All our giving only created someone who finally felt good enough about themselves that they could leave us. Yet, we rebuild ourselves because we know it wasn't a waste. We helped someone. We gave and gave until they didn't need us to give anymore. So, we keep giving, just to someone new who needs it.

As much as this is terrifying, it is beautiful. It is amazing to be able to spread love everywhere. It is genuinely a gift that so many people are not lucky enough to have. This is why I encourage you to keep loving deeply, no matter how many times you get hurt. You have the incredible power to lift others up, to light their fire. You are a giver and you should embrace that. One day you will meet someone who stops taking. You will meet someone who, like you, is a giver. This is the day your fire will shine bright and never dim. But until then, don't put your fire out. As defeated as you may feel, keep going, and keep giving. Because loving deeply is a trait so few people experience, but we are so lucky to have.

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17 Telltale Signs That He's NOT Worth Your Time Dating And You Should End It... Now

If even one of these items happens to you, END IT.

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Relationships are about learning and growing together in order to support one another to the best of your ability. Sometimes, though, your partner possesses qualities and that just do not mesh with your personality, qualities, experiences, expectations, and life goals. It may feel awful at first; however, in the long run, this is actually a good thing to identify. If two people are not getting the same positive outcome from a relationship, then it's not worth the time to pursue. Oftentimes, things that seem minuscule at the moment actually have a much larger impact overall and, after time, these seemingly small things start to feel heavy. As a result, you learn what to expect in a relationship.

Here are 17 signs that your relationship isn't worth your time.

1. He mispronounces your last name

This is especially horrible if it happens while he is addressing your parents.

2. He doesn't make an effort with your family

Speaking of family... well they're kind of important.

3. He doesn't pay attention

To you or anything really.

4. You've never met any of his friends

Wouldn't you think he would want to show you off?

5. His words don't align with his actions

It is pretty easy to say something but what really matters is if he does it.

6. His family interactions are not healthy

You can really learn a lot about a person based off of the other relationships that they have. If you don't like what you see, you probably won't be comfortable with the relationship between the two of you.

7. He doesn't ask for consent

A. BIG. DEAL. BREAKER.

8. He is not mindful

Again, of you or anything really.

9. You have to mother him

Relationships should be 50-50 in terms of learning and growing together; there should never be one person pulling the other.

10. Conversation is artificial

Which can be painful.

11. He doesn't remember important things about you 

12. You contemplate your relationship (even the slightest bit)

It's never a good sign when you find yourself beginning to doubt the stability of your relationship.

13. Your parents tell you that something is off

They know you the best and only want what's best for you.

14. Your close friends tell you that something is off

They also know you very well and only want the best for you.

15. Your not-so-close friends tell you that something is off

Take a hint, honey.

16. He doesn't tell you goodnight

You should always end the day feeling positive and knowing that the other is thinking about you.

17. You go to bed upset

(Could be a result of number 16.) You should never, ever let whatever is happening between you two carry over to the next day.

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If You Would Leave Your Significant Other If They Didn’t Have A Dollar To Their Name, It’s Not True Love

Money will get you anything you want, unless it's a fairy tale romance.

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We have all heard about the Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos split. Jeff Bezos's fortune amounts to 140 BILLION dollars. With that money, he could have bought absolutely anything in the world that he wanted. I mean, what would you choose to buy with that wealth? However, in the end, the one thing he couldn't buy was, clearly, a happy marriage.

Let's take a moment to imagine that you jump into the future 50 years. What aspects of your life are you reflecting on?

Are you thinking about the outfits you wore, the status you showed off with your nice car, and all the money you had to spend on things you wanted?

Or are you measuring the quality of your life through the relationships you had with others? Maybe, most significantly, a romantic relationship?

If you've turned on the radio recently, you'll know that it's no secret that one thing almost everyone desires the MOST is true love.

Our society has learned to laugh at that notion, saying that companionate/ realistic love is really the only type of romance people get in real life.

So what do we do? We turn to money. It fills all the emotional voids we have in our unfulfilling lives. Yes, our unfulfilling lives. If you were satisfied with every aspect of your life, there would be no need for spending money aside from survival essentials.

When you turn your back on the idea of true love because you deem it "unreal" and turn to money, you may as well call yourself Alexander Hamilton because you are setting yourself up for a long life of feeling unsatisfied. Because, the truth is, fairy tale romances do actually exist.

But money will never buy it for you.

In fact, it may distract you and create the illusion of true love. Just because you enjoy the fancy gifts, homes, and trips someone can provide you does not mean you are absolutely, truly, head over heels in love with them.

If you wouldn't be with your partner if they didn't have a dollar to their name, it's not true love.

You can't pay for someone to truly love you, and extravagant gifts will never buy someone's love, just their comfort.

So if you can't buy love, how do you get it?

You've been hearing this since grade school, but getting your priorities straight is a MUST.

Work is important, and earning a salary is necessary. But work and money should never be what is most important in life, and you should never prioritize money above a significant other.

Finding the person you are meant to be with takes time, and maintaining the love between the two of you is no simple task.

Always put your significant other ahead of any desire of yours. Their needs should always come first, and for them, your needs will always come first.

It's the little things that keep people madly in love, not something money can buy.

The conversations you have with each other from the heart, the extra burden you put on yourself one day to allow your significant other to sleep in, or the meal you prepare for them so they have one less thing to worry about. The little, everyday things remind your S/O that they mean the world to you. Not the amount of money they're willing to spend for you.

So next time you're counting up your money to see if you have enough to afford the next new fun thing you want, consider how worthless it actually is to the quality of your life.

Love will bring your life value. Money will you bring you materials.

Don't settle for someone you're comfortable with. Find that person you would be with if they didn't have a dime in the world because that person will make you happier than any amount of money or materials ever could.

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