Ghosting And Ditching Is Immature

To Those Who Ghost and Ditch, Grow Up

Self-confidence is something that you need to have to world of dating.


Self-confidence is something that you need to have to world of dating. You have to display that you have to display this confidence through text, Snapchat, Instagram, and any other social media out there. But, one way that your confidence can take a massive hit is being ditched on a date.

Up until I got to college I had never been ditched before, yeah I had been on plenty of bad dates where nothing is going right and clearly, there is nothing in common with the other person. That's completely ok, it truly is like that sometimes.

Being ditched I can honestly say is soul crushing. There can't be a worse feeling. We went to Starbucks and sat down everything was great! We were talking and laughing like we were doing so easily through text. We get there, sit down, and I go up to order my coffee then I turn around and she was gone. No explanation, no text, no Snapchat, nothing. She blocked and deleted me from everything so there was no way I could contact her.

I could feel the stares in the room, there were a few people who looked over at me and could see my blank face and confusion. Some others chuckled and thought it was just a joke, but it was far from it. I sat and waited for a few minutes, but I took the hint that she wasn't coming back. Honestly, one of the most embarrassing moments of my entire life.

Maybe I was too confident or was it something I said or did? Those thoughts were jumping, leaping, running, and dancing all through my mind. My self-confidence took a mean right hook and honestly I never felt more alone.

This is the type of culture we live in now. Ghosting and ditching with no explanations. This isn't just something women do, men are just as guilty. People just honestly do not care when they do this. It is a clear sign that you have no respect for the person, you're selfish, and at the end of the day are not a very good person.

Think about the person you are doing this to, I know for them it's really hard. You make the other person feel worthless, lonely, and put them into a state of sadness that is hard to climb out of.

Again, I know it hard for people who display this behavior to understand what I'm saying, but hey if you weren't having a good time just let him or her know! Don't leave them guessing, be honest and it will make the situation that much easier to walk away from.

Maybe this is just me voicing my issues and you can call me whatever you want. I just want to look out for those who have gone through being ditched and ghosted with no reasons told. It will be ok and don't give up. Stay confident ladies and gents. Love comes to those who are patient.

To those individuals who think that this type of behavior is ok, seriously grow up.

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10 Photos You Have On Your Camera Roll Of Your S.O. When You've Been Dating For More Than A Year

A wide range from "Aw" to "WTF?"


My boyfriend and I just hit the year and a half mark of dating, even though it seems like we've been together forever. Over the months, we've taken many pictures together... from football games, to his track meets, to holidays. Although we may have a lot of pictures together, I definitely have a lot of candids of him in my camera roll. If you've been dating your partner for as long as I have or longer, then you'll probably notice you have these same pictures in your photos as well.

1. The awkward first photos together

We laugh at these now, especially this one. Why am I so pale compared to him? It was July! And also, we noticed not to long ago that I was sweating under my arms and his underarms were sweating on me... what a great first time meeting!

2. The ones for VSCO

Every girl who has a significant other posts them onto their VSCO. VSCO is like Instagram, but more has more aesthetically pleasing pictures and there are no "likes." The pictures that include my boyfriend on my VSCO ranges from him holding a bunny to him holding my hand while we went ice skating.

3. Them sleeping

I have so many pictures of my boyfriend sleeping (I promise it's not as weird as it sounds), I just think he's so cute when he's fast asleep while cuddling with me.

4. The embarrassing ones they want no one to see

He's going to kill me when he sees this... but we all have those embarrassing Snapchat pictures that we start to send each other because we've gotten more comfortable with one another.

5. The ones for Facebook

The good looking pictures so you can keep yours and his family updated on how you two are doing. I took my boyfriend to a baby bird meet and greet since he loves birds and has one for a pet. I posted this cute picture of him and his new friends on Facebook so my family can see our adventures together.

6. Old pictures

One of the best parts of dating someone is finally seeing their old pictures. Although, sometimes they may make you cringe... like the one I posted above of my boyfriend after prom in his sophomore year of high school.

7. Their accomplishments

My boyfriend pole vaults for his college and he's really good at it. He just went to division III nationals in March because he qualified! I'm always at his meets so I make sure to get him on video in case he or anyone wants to see. I always try to snag a picture with him too because I'm always so proud.

8. The straight up ugly ones

He sure knows how to make me laugh. And I know he's going to be mad at me for this one too but I think it's a talent that he can do that with his stomach! Sorry, Adam, I promise I still think you look good when you send me these snaps for the most part.

9. But you have the hot ones too

He may be funny and sweet, but he is pretty good looking too. I know us girls keep some attractive pictures of our S.O.'s so we can remind ourselves of what a great looking partner we have.

10. FaceTime screenshots

If you and your lover go to different colleges like my boyfriend and I do, then FaceTiming happens a lot. Sometimes I get some great screenshots, like the one above, to make fun of him later.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Waxing and Waning

From Ada Limón's Carrying.


As we near finals, it's time to reflect on this past semester: one full of ups and downs, high highs and low lows. Like a lot of my fellow students, it seemed like more time was spent in the lows. But even the drudgery of day-to-day classes had its bright spots. One of these was a book of poems I read for my creative writing class, The Carrying by Ada Limón. I was inspired by Limón's work and decided to rearrange some of the lines that struck me into a new narrative.

Waxing and Waning

I'm driving alone in the predawn

It's almost romantic as we adjust the waxy blue

the extent of our adventurism

then a heaving. Sounds sucked from lungs.

and uncupping our ears to hear.

No, to the rising tides.

(they wish to bless and bless and hush)

that bend with moss and old man's beard

mouthing the sand and silt, a crawdad

jellyfish washed to the stormy shore.

Sometimes, we drown together.

But sometimes I swear I hear it, the wound closing

your own lungs, like venom? Reader, I want to

making identical perfect selves, bam, another me,

we stood static and listened to them insane

Cling and remind me—

But sometimes I swear I hear it, the wound closing

to myself that's between a prayer and a curse—how dare we live

this was all sentimental crap, you

you were dead all over again.

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