Sometimes we drift apart from friends for no particular reason. Sometimes friendships end because it's necessary for the two people's sanity and happiness. To the friend whose negative impact outweighed their positive impact in my life, this one's for you.
It takes A LOT for me to move on from a friendship. I don't just end a friendship because of momentary madness.
All too often, I will let people walk all over me and take me for granted just to avoid conflict. But recently, I came to an important realization: if someone is impacting you more negatively than positively, there's no reason for you to stick around.
I let this friend stick around WAY TOO LONG. It wasn't one thing they did in particular that made me realize we couldn't be friends any longer; it was a compilation of years worth of things.
If there's one thing I hate that has been apart of my life too much, it's drama. Drama is basically a cloud of negativity that if you're not careful, you can become consumed in. This "friend" of mine basically had drama written across their forehead.
Pro tip: if your friend is always talking about someone to you, then they're probably talking about you to someone else too.
Like I said earlier, it really does take a lot for me not to want to be friends with someone anymore. All of my friends currently bring so much positivity and pure fun to my life that I couldn't imagine life without them. However, when you find yourself nine times out of ten feeling sad/mad/annoyed after hanging out with someone, why allow them to make you feel that way?
One thing I've learned is that a friend should NEVER believe they are better than the rest of their friends. Sure, you might be better at sports or social media stalking than one of your friends, but you can't actually think you're an overall better person than them. After all, you want to surround yourself with people who make you better!
So, "friend" of mine, you may have thought you were better than me morally, socially, or whatever else, but I don't think you realize the way you brought me down. Having you think poorly of me and talk about me constantly didn't help my self-esteem the slightest bit.
I'm not sorry that we grew apart, or should I say, that I grew up. I still cherish the memories we made together. And just because we aren't friends anymore doesn't mean I don't wish you the best, and I hope you know that.
The point of this article is NOT to persuade y'all to cut ties with anyone who has negatively affected y'alls lives. You, me, nor anyone else is perfect, so don't expect your friends to be!
Each and every person has been placed in your life for a purpose - either a blessing or a lesson. Learn from the lessons and never stop loving the blessings!
