The Chairman of the Board. The Sultan of Swoon. Ol' Blue Eyes. Frank. The man was one of the most influential singers of the 20th century; he had the world on a string. His music encapsulated love in its entirety, whether it was about falling for or longing for the girl, he just did it his way. Not all of his music has trumpets blaring and violins playing in the background, the man had a way with heartache and depression, like in songs such as, "Guess I'll Hang My Tears Out To Dry." Those songs are charged with emotion and each and every one of them encompasses a unique feeling that only his words and his voice could illustrate.
The Sultan of Swoon was a voice of a generation, a time where the existence of romance and chivalry weren't as doubted as often as they are nowadays. His songs tell about admiring women in all their beauty and treasuring the times of romance. From being strangers in the night, to loving each other all the way, Frank was able to convey all the stages lovers go through with one another. Whether the song is uplifting or deep, long or short, it is almost as though there is a Sinatra song for every moment of love.
When you're trying to accept a breakup, there's "I'm A Fool To Want You." When "every kiss/ every hug/ seems to act just like a drug," there's "You're Getting To Be A Habit With Me." And when the girl, or the 'broad' as Frank always called them, had you caught under her spell, there's "Witchcraft." His incredible voice matched with the clear and magical words paints a picture inside the heads of all modern romantics. His music makes you feel classy, as it throws you back to a time and society that is completely foreign to us millennials.
While the times were much different than today, a time where social media and texting hold a large part in the world of dating, Sinatra emulated the tender and aggressive man. He was not one to hide how he felt about a girl but he submitted completely and focused solely on the woman he was with. And his music depicted that. Today, there are many guys on both polarizing sides of the spectrum of tenderness and aggression. Some are too aggressive, going after women in a wild, hysterical way that leaves women to be standoffish and put up fronts, while others use the petty "nice guys finish last" argument to justify their lack of action and end up in the dreaded friend-zone.
Today, both women and men have social media accounts and cell phones. We text, like, favorite, retweet, and so on, which is okay when used correctly. But we all know how it can be used the wrong way, especially in the world of dating. Social media and texting are full of games that can lead to some confusing altercations (like when trying to be sarcastic texting ... happens to me all the time). The complicated games of when to respond to a text, what photos to like, and what tweets to retweet hinders and possibly take over the ways of establishing a meaningful connection with someone. You don't have to go and delete your Facebook, because it's a useful tool to connect with others, but make sure it is not a platform for romance.
Once you make a connection with her (like having meet in person and hung out a couple of times, otherwise she may think it'd be a tad creepy), and developed feelings for her, mix it up. Go write her a love letter, you don't have to write songs and have a voice like Frank, just pour your heart out on a piece of paper. Yeah it's throwing yourself out there, you'll be more prone to rejection, but when you finally find the women that accepts your feelings, she'll melt. Take a risk. Be the guy that brings back a little romance sometimes, we're trained to have tough skin, conquering and ruling our lives, so when it comes to romance, don't be afraid to submit yourself to the euphoric feelings of falling head over heels for someone. Don't be afraid to add a little romance.
I invite you to go ahead and add some Sinatra to your Spotify, think of the girl you've been "seeing," and pour your heart out on pad of paper. You don't have to a poet, or a singer like Frank, you just have to do it your way.
