Going through a break up is one of the most difficult things in a person's life, no matter how old you are. Whether it was three months or three years, every emotion you're feeling is valid. Maybe you're wondering what will help cure your broken heart. These might not work for everyone, but these ways worked wonders for me when I was dumped my senior year of high school.
1. Dye or cut your hair!
I know it's kinda scary to put all of your faith into some box dye, but changing your hair is a great first step to getting over an ex! Even if it's as simple as cutting two inches off of your hair, you feel like a new person, and feel like you can conquer the world. When I was dumped, I went to the store the next day and bought the darkest brown hair dye I could find. Going from a strawberry blonde to an espresso brown was scary, but I was so happy with the results! I felt refreshed, like I was starting over, and I felt on top of the world.
2. A night with friends!
My friends are the entire reasons why I got through one of the roughest break ups yet (hopefully the last). Weekly games nights are the reasons why I stopped crying tears of sadness, and I knew whenever I felt sad, I could call them up for an impromptu adventure! Just something as simple as playing board games or getting ice cream with some good friends lifts one's spirits. Even if it just makes you feel better for the time you spend with them, it's time you didn't spend thinking about them.
3. Pack up their stuff.
Most likely, you have items your ex gave to you - maybe a few of their shirts, some jewelry or stuffed animals, photos, etc. GET RID OF IT. Seriously. Gather it up and pack it in a box, a bag, anything really, and put it in your basement or your closet. The constant reminder of what used to be will hurt you more - it's better to get it all out of site so you feel more comfortable in your room, not haunted by memories. That also goes for your phone - delete. the. photos. There's no reason to hoard photos because it'll just make you upset. Trust me when I say, delete photos of your ex and instead, fill your phone with pictures of cute animals. They'll make you smile.
4. Get involved in something!
A good way to get your mind off of your ex is to get involved in extracurriculars! When I went through my break up, I switched jobs that was focused on talking to and helping people (so retail). I was also heavily involved in show choir and theatre, and between rehearsals and work, I found myself barely thinking about him. If you can, join something that will require you to stay busy and interactive with others. Making new friends due to these activities or work will also help a lot. Plus, if its a job you're applying for, think of all the money you'll soon be making, and all the things you can buy to treat yo'self!
5. Find yourself.
After a break up is the best time to find out who YOU are, instead of knowing who you were with your ex. Spend time outside, go hiking, explore your town fully, start journaling, figure out things you like doing, and do them. This is about you. Don't be afraid to try new things, even if it's something as small as a new ice cream flavor. Take your friends and family along with you, because they are going to be your biggest supporters through this time. I know it seems impossible, but you will find your best self, and in turn start to move on to bigger and better things.
