Fitness, And All The Stereotypes Associated With It

Fitness, And All The Stereotypes Associated With It

I am working on myself, for myself, by myself. That's how it should be.

Ive been finding it hard for me to sit down and write because I've been a bit uninspired lately. However, I have fallen in love with my passion and future career again.

I have dedicated myself to becoming a healthier me both physically and mentally. Exercising at least 5 times a week and thoroughly enjoying pushing my body to new limits and beginning to study to become a personal trainer and fully delve into my love for fitness. However, as I've started to venture further into the world of fitness I've learned a lot of things, both good and bad.

We all know those fitness insporation accounts or "fitspo" accounts that we all follow in hopes it will make our lazy bums get out of bed and turn away from Netflix and actually head to the gym. However, have we actually stood in the mirror and looked at our bodies compared to those in the posts we obsess over? One of the most important things I learned in my exercise science intro class was to make goals for yourself that are personalized to your body and to your reality, not that of others. So my question is, why do we spend precious minutes and hours wishing, praying, and hoping to become false realities?

I learned a long time ago that I will never be a size 2 model with a perfectly sculpted thigh gap and eternally tiny tummy. Growing up, that was hard for me to accept because I wanted so badly to look like all the girls I followed on social media and saw on TV. But now, I love my skin. My curves, my cellulite, my broad shoulders, and I make sure that the goals I set for myself are appropriate for ME. I am working on myself, for myself, by myself. That's how it should be.

With that said, there are a few issues I have with some things I've seen on my social media recently. As I've started to follow more and more personal trainers, fitness instructors, and role models to help keep myself motivated, I've noticed something rather disturbing. Women are being criticized for being "too skinny to post about fitness", "too fat to be working out", and "too muscular to be a woman". I see the exact same things on male trainers pages too. Men, just because you can't throw a weight over your head and scream while doing so doesn't make unhealthy or any less of a man. Since when did someone's health become defined by their outward appearance and when did it become okay for someone's personal fitness goals have to appeal to society? Everyone starts somewhere and the most important part is that you start.

It infuriates me to see women AND men being discouraged from wanting to make a positive change in their life because they're scared to be judged in the gym or on social media. Whether someone wants to simply keep their blood pressure in check or if they want to lift 300 lbs. above their head, it does not concern anyone else besides those individuals. So to everyone out there who feels they need to concern themselves with the well being of others, mind your own goddamn business and take some pointers.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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Men, If The Gillette Commercial Angers You, You Need To Re-Evaluate Your Morals

If you are offended by this commercial, YOU are who the commercial is aimed at.


On Tuesday, January 15, Gillette, a men's shaving care company, released an extremely controversial commercial. This commercial that has taken over social media by storm shows many different examples of toxic masculinity and how men should encourage other men to be the best they can be, playing off of the company's tagline.

Many people are angry with this commercial, mostly because they believe it to be "anti-male." It first shows different examples of toxic masculinity, such as a dad saying, "Boys will be boys" as his son beats up another kid. It then goes on to other examples, like sexual harassment against women, social media bullying and mansplaining. In the last part of the commercial, it shows different ways men can counteract these same situations in different, positive ways.

I have seen so many tweets of men throwing away Gillette products, cussing out the company and saying they have no right to "come after men" like that. But guess what?

This commercial isn't anti-male. It is all for being a positive influence and a respectful HUMAN.

"Boys will be boys" is not a valid excuse for your son to beat up another kid at school. Mansplaining everything a woman says does degrade her. Standing on the sidelines watching a man make comments to a woman who clearly isn't interested is awful. Just like girls automatically hating other girls is not okay just because it is seen as a societal norm. This isn't about being against men and it never will be.

No, I'm not a feminist because I do not align with the man-hating definition that that word is given in today's society. But I have more respect for the men in my life who don't subscribe to the idea that being a man means that you have to be an immoral, toxic person. This commercial isn't about being politically correct. It's about being a good person and just happens to mention the negative traits that men sometimes exhibit. Just like women do.

The best men in my life are the ones who put their masculinity aside and don't let it infiltrate everything they do. They stand up for other men who are being put down due to who they are. They stand up for women who are being harassed by other men. They teach younger boys how to be respectful, honest, good men so that when they grow up, they can teach their sons the same lessons.

The men who are triggered by this commercial need to look themselves in the mirror and ask why it bothers them so much. Is it because YOU make excuses for the way you act because you're "a man" and it is just "what you do?" Maybe it is because you know it is true, that you can see the toxic masculinity in yourself but don't want to admit it.

Whatever the reason, just understand that the commercial couldn't be further from putting down men. Gillette, and the rest of society, want men to be the best they can be, period.

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