To the person who is reading this and thinking it is another "Oh, life is so great" kind of article, you are wrong. This one is for the individuals who have to drag their feet out of bed every morning and force a smile on their faces. To the select few who can be in a crowded room, yet feel so lonely. This one is for the group of young adults who feel depressed all day long and feel bad about it because society says you are overreacting.
Trust me, I understand you. I understand what you are going through, and I was you. If you are in that dark place, there are a few things someone told me that I want to share with you.
You have to put yourself first. You have to enjoy who you are as a person and not let anyone else decide who you are going to be. Like my article a few weeks ago, you have to turn off the sad songs and the sad movies. Do not dwell in the past, but live for today. Stop telling yourself you cannot do something when you just need the will to do it. But also remember, there are people who care.
And just like Jessie J says, "It is OK to not be OK." Cry when you need to, and do not bottle up your emotions. You were put on this Earth for a purpose and I am almost 100 percent positive, it is not to suffer every day of your life. Learn from the heartbreak and the loneliness. Do not just learn how to get through it, but how to be stronger for yourself. No one should have the power to make your happiness, but yourself.Have something to believe in. Whether it is God, Allah, or other religious idols, do it for yourself. Set yourself a large goal that is obtainable from smaller goals. Dance in the rain. Sing as loud as you can, even if you cannot sing like Alicia Keys.
But most importantly, always remember that you are not alone. If you need someone with a shoulder to cry on, someone to go on a late night drive with, or someone just to listen, there are plenty of people around you... you just have to get out and ask for help. If you cannot find anyone and you need someone, I am here. You do not have to worry about us being best friends or any of your secrets getting out, because I was in your place not too long ago. Of course, I had my mom and cousin to rely on for help but I am a great listener. Whether it is Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, I will be there.
There is a time in our lives when we have to stop feeling sad for ourselves and be happy for once. There is always a rainbow after a bad storm. For myself, I never thought I would see happiness again. I thought that instead of a rainy day I was trapped in the hurricane and no matter what I did, I could not save myself. Looking back for the past 15 months, I can see the difference.
So... are you ready to make the change?