10 Emotions You Can Either Let Consume You Or Fuel You

10 Emotions You Can Either Let Consume You Or Fuel You

"Emotions make us human, denying them makes us beast."- Victoria Klein

We all have those days.

You know the ones where you're so upset or so angry that it seems like nothing can make it better. Then there are the ones where no matter what you do you don't feel any better.

An emotion is defined as a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others. You probably have felt all of the ones on this list at some point. Here are 10 emotions that you can let fuel you or consume you.

1. Heartbreak

I can say (from personal experience) that this is one of the harder ones because you often aren't aware of the emotion you have attached to something or someone whether it be a breakup or something else.

But sometimes heartbreak can end up being the best thing for you. It can become a time for reinvention, whether that's setting new boundaries, forgiving or taking a more active role in your life.

2. Pain or regret

Pain is necessary because it informs you that a change needs to be made. The best way to not let this emotion to consume you is to look at the overall end picture or goal.

Regret is the same. It's easy to say that we should "live life with no regrets" but actually putting this into practice is much harder.

3. Failure

Failure is definitely another one of the hard emotions to feel, especially when you feel int about yourself. It can potentially stop you from trying something again or doing something because you're afraid of failing.Next time you fail at something, no matter what it is, try again.

4. Disappointment

Everyone at some point or another will disappoint you and vice versa. It's inevitable. Instead of focusing on what caused the disappointment, try to focus on why you are disappointed.

5. Sadness

This one can coincide very easily with heartbreak. you can also feel sadness when leaving a pet, friend or relative that you may not see for a while. you can let it fuel you by really feeling the emotion.

6. Anger or hate

Everyone has felt anger at some point, sometimes more often then they care to admit. Anger can be an emotion that you hold onto and never let go.

To say you hate something or someone is strong. It means you dislike something or someone so much that you need a word better that dislike to describe it.

7. Jealousy

Jealousy seems like the most counterproductive feeling, and in a lot of cases, it is. It's an easy way to become bitter with the rest of the world.

So how do you combat it?

The trick here is to cut your jealousy off before it even attaches itself to someone or something else. You have every right to something that someone else has.

8. Betrayal

Somebody do something that you cant forgive no matter how hard you try? it could be a cheating significant other, a co-worker or friend stealing your idea— whatever it was it usually leaves you pretty upset.

9. Fear

Everyone has fear.

Fear of failing, doing something wrong and losing something that matters to you, not being enough (I've been there), and even fear of things like clowns or books.

10. Distrust

This one can weigh heavy if not dealt with right away. Once you lose trust for someone or something it can be hard to give it back. The same also goes if someone loses your trust.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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