I'm going to say this straight up: people are going to leave your life whether you like it or not.
This is a tough pill to swallow, yes, but it's going to happen. Humans are very flawed, so they're prone to making mistakes. We're self-centered creatures, and we forget that our actions have consequences attached. Friends will stop being friends with you; potential significant others will lose interest. Why? They usually are too cowardly to give an answer.
Don't attempt to call, text, or meet up with them because they don't want to own up to how poorly they treated you. Sometimes it's better to be left in the cold. I've been a victim of being left high and dry, and I was devastated that I didn't get an explanation at first. Then, I realized this person didn't deserve all of the good things I brought into their life. I remembered that my well-being and happiness is my number one priority.
You're worth so much more than this person made you feel.
Once a person decides to walk out of your life, keep moving forward. It's difficult to get back up once you've been kicked down, but it makes you stronger. Never look in the rear-view mirror; only past the dashboard. Just watch out for Closure. Closure is a deer in the headlights. It can cause you to get into an accident.
Closure isn't always the best option because it could be a bunch of lies. Plus, it's negative energy that you don't need to waste a breath on. The anticipation leading up to it can leave your stomach in knots; the news isn't always want you want to hear, either. Don't give this person a chance to make up excuses. The best revenge is showing this person that you can survive, even thrive without them.
This person can't be trusted. All they do is look out for themselves. They're a wolf in sheep's clothing - a weed trying to uproot a beautiful flower. Whatever they say shouldn't be taken to heart because they're still confused. They don't have a purpose in life yet. Their thinking and judgment are clouded by something that's bigger than you. Don't try to nit-pick the situation because the wounds will cut deeper.
You are too precious. Focus on yourself.
Do what you love - it will distract you from the bad memories and make you smile again. Stay close to the people who mean most to you. This experience will only make you a greater person in the end. It teaches you tolerance, self-respect, and what to look for in a friendship or a relationship. You don't need anyone who doesn't love you for you. It would be unrequited, and an emotional strain.
It's even worse when this person thinks your life is simply a revolving door. It's the most toxic situation of all. Lock the door as tightly as you can, and fight with all your might. Stand your ground, and tell this person why you don't want them to come back. If you leave the door open enough, they'll slither back in. You'd think, Why would I let someone go back and forth? They don't deserve my kindness. But, it's very easy to fall back into old habits, trust me.
It can be hard to voice your feelings in the matter. You may choke up, lose your train of thought, and look like you lost your sanity. It's okay, it's going to happen. Try your best to endure the nervousness to say what you need to. Don't worry about hurting the other person. They're thriving off of you letting them destroy you. Do it without consideration: you'll save yourself a lot of heartache and tears.
Being left in the dark isn't foreign to me.
I've dealt with people who leave without saying goodbye, and people that leave and come back. It's not easy. It's exhausting, actually. I worshiped the ground these people walked on, and they treated me like a deplorable. It's the hardest thing to have to let go every single time someone leaves, but I've grown to be used to disappointment. I don't get my hopes up like I used to - it protects me from getting hurt.
Having a big heart is my weakness. I've been taken advantage of several times. I need to embrace a new way of thinking. I need to be selective with who I let into my life. Unfortunately, not everyone is going to care for me as much as I care for them. Not every person deserves a second chance, or multiple chances.
It's time to toughen up and grow a thicker skin. This world has both good and bad people in it. I understand that not everyone is going to stay, but every person I cross paths with has a lesson along with them. I hate saying that I have to settle with second best when I should deserve primal treatment, but this isn't a utopia. It's just a part of life. Every lesson someone brings is valuable.
