Don't Rely On Others For Happiness, You're Your Own Best Friend
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Don't Rely On Others For Happiness, You're Your Own Best Friend

It's scary to be alone, but it's worth it once you realize your worth.

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Don't Rely On Others For Happiness, You're Your Own Best Friend

I hear the stories of ugly breakups, sweet revenge and crushing defeats far too often. A person does all that they could do in that relationship, and it just falls through anyways. Sure, I have been in those situations a couple of times. But that doesn't mean it's going to put me down.

Sometimes, you may not get the closure that you need when things end. To be blunt, you just need to move on. Eventually, you will reason out why things ended the way they did, and then there will a burden that is lifted from your shoulders.

Of course, you can try to seek the closure you want. A little scenario will play out in your head and you may try your hardest to have things go the way you expect them. It all falls apart when the person completely ignores you.

One thing is certain: ostracism is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. As human beings, we depend on the help of people we feel close to. Totally rejecting someone and ignoring them is like giving them a death sentence. I'm sure we have all been in this sort of position before and it's not the best feeling.

It really is quite depressing and it's quite unfortunate that people can become insensitive to these sort of things. It's even worse when people do it on purpose.

If you did all you could do with the respect you gave graciously, and nothing is happening, then you don't earn that person anything. As I put it, you drop them like a hot pocket and continue with your life.

It would be a waste of energy to press matters further if you keep on looking for the answer that you seek. Sometimes the answer is that it what it is and you will have to accept it in that form.

If the person that ignored you reached out to you by asking how you are doing, weeks or months later after you have moved on, you should remind yourself that you don't own them anything. You could ostracize them. But in this scenario, it is not cruel.

Own it! You are free to make your own choices and live as you please. In the end, you are your own best friend and should not feel like you are missing out when someone is disrespectful to you.

Simply know your worth. Don't lower your standards when you're feeling low, don't feel as though you owe someone something after they ignored your existence, instead, stand up tall and be confident in yourself. Because in the end, you don't need them.

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