The world is full of boss women to look up to these days whether it's Michelle Obama, Joanna Gaines, or even Jennifer Lopez. However, the most significant fact that makes them boss women is that they can hold their own crown without the help of any man.
Sure, Michelle Obama has Barack, Joanna has Chip, and JLo has Alex Rodriguez (and before that she had Marc Anthony), but these women stand tall and successful all on their own without the help of any man. Unfortunately, I've noticed that a lot of women these days, especially college-aged women, let men control their lives. Sometimes it's financially, and other times it's by, telling them how to dress, what they can post on social media, or who they can hang out with.
As someone who has been in a controlling relationship before, I am here to tell you that a restrictive relationship is not worth it even if you may feel like you are in love with the person. There is a difference between respect and boundaries versus being controlled by a significant other.
As someone who has been there before, I'm here to share with you 12 things you should tell any man who tries to tell you what to do:
"Goodbye."
Honestly, the most drastic response but who needs a controlling partner in their life.
"I make my own decisions."
Stand tall, and don't let your crown fall with this clear line.
"Thanks but no thanks!"
Honestly, this is a more polite way to go and lets your SO know you appreciate their opinion but didn't need it.
"We live in the 21st century."
We aren't living in the 1960s anymore or the stone ages, women have a right to make their own decisions and have their voices heard.
"Please watch how you speak to me."
Again, another sassy filled comeback, tell your boo to watch what he says to you and to speak to you as an equal.
"Did I ask for your opinion?"
Definitely an aggressive line but nobody should have attempted to control your queen self anyways.
"Would you like to be told what to do if the roles were reversed?"
Truth be told, most men wouldn't like being controlled either so they shouldn't try to control their woman.
"In order to continue this relationship, I need to be able to be my own person."
All women deserve to not feel constrained by their relationship and develop into their own strong and independent boss woman.
"Is there a way we can come up with a mutual understanding?"
This is definitely for women who cannot stand conflict, which is perfectly acceptable. Try to find a common ground and a solution for the both of you.
"Why does my action or lack thereof make you uncomfortable?"
Finding out the reasoning behind the controlling behavior may help point out ways to fix it.
"I will do what I please."
Make sure they know that you are an independent woman who has gotten far enough on their own without the help of any man and to trust your judgement.
"You're not my father."
Last time I checked, a significant other should act as a partner and equal... not as a parental figure.
Nobody deserves to be controlled and everyone deserves to be in a happy and healthy relationship that allows them to thrive and feel fulfilled. Women everywhere should realize their worth and be able to stick up for themselves within relationships especially if a man tries to control them.
Never be afraid to be your own person and make your own decisions. Overall, great relationships are about finding a beautiful balance and compromising.
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